3 year old terrified to be alone

[threesacharm]

i really need some advice on my 3 year old.  he is terrified to be alone!!  he will not sleep in his own bed, if i so much as leave the room to go get something he stops what he is doing and is right there with me.  if he wakes up in the morning and i am in the shower he freaks out and i can hear him running all over the house to find me, screaming.  to give you some info on what is going on in his life, his 5 year old brother has been in and out of the hospital with a rare syndrome called Midaortic syndrome.  he has a 1 year old sister.  i work and my husband works and my mother is his babysitter.  it has been getting worse since his brother has been sick, but we do everything we can to make him feel loved and paid attention to.  i just don't know what to do for him.  i want him to sleep in his own room, and i want him to stop being so afraid to be alone.  what do you think this could be?  what can i do to make him feel better?  i am also wanted to get him potty trained.  he is somewhat doing it but is this just one more thing to add to his list?  help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[margypops]

A lot going on in his little life he could bve anxious and if he hears grown ups concerned for the son in and out of Hospital thats enough,hes worried for his brother I'd say, how does your Mom handle him ,does she reassure him his brother will be okay, does she do plenty of things with him, reading ,Games ,going out, Treats,Take his mind off the problem, and relax on the potty training ,Maybe hes not with you a long enough time each day and its a bit of Seperation anxiety, give him more time before he goes to bed, dont be rigid on the time he has to go to bed, read him happy stories and have some quiet time, get Dad involved , ask Dad to take him out Play ball, do guy things.I am sure you do pay him attention but is it the right kind .