my 4 year old has anger problems

[mrsfrog]

I am a mother of a 4 year old and a 2 year old. I am needing help on what to do. My 4 year old has realy bad anger problems when he gets mad he will turn red and start to sake. The other day at headstart he got mad for some reason and he turned red and started to sake and this time he tried to stab another little boy with a fork. I have tried everything. I don't know what else there is to do, and my 2 year old is picking it up. I want to get this controlled before it gets too far out of control. please help

[RockRose]

Does his dad also have problems with angry outbursts?

[margypops]

Find out Why he is behaving like this , he is upset by something, what did the school do /say when he tried to stab a child , could he be jealous of the 2 year old.Could you give a scenario of what happens prior to a tantrum, what triggers it ?