Our daughter is 11, she is extremely bright ( she would have graduated high school last year but we felt teacher
ING her more would only be good). Being so smart, and now home schooled makes social interaction with children her age extremely difficult. She understands sex, why we have it, who with, the reason for this, and the anatomy of it. As the father I share I unique Bond with me daughter. She is better spoken, better read, and more intelligent than most people. I have 168 I and she will psst me. She understands we punish out of love, and that we are preparing her to face life and it's choices alone (we will always support her) with sexton she know that it is a physical expression of love. It is meant to be an act that brings people together and deepens these bonds. Me and my wife are some of the lucky few the we can call our daughter true friend while Maintaining boundaries. However, my daughter got the point of the tlk. Sexton is between ones we love and trust. It's is to depend these Bonds, and to explore love in a new way. She knows about desease, and other issues. However, for the last year she keeps wanting to explorer this ground with me and the wife. We explained why it was bad, and she cites all the reasons why people you love and care for are the right people. We explain we love her but not in that way, and again I get cited facts and books,, but then she acts out to get this attention from strangers... we are at our wits end trying to find a solution that helps her learn what she needs, but shows her that waiting for someone special is better. We love our daughter, and mentally she is capable of choices, she is brilliant, but being 11 she lacks wisdom/experience/perspective to know what she is asking. While this was explained her mind and heart our set.. I know she is unique, she has has no prior sexual
Sexual experience with anyone. She has experimented on her own. We our close and she has said as much.we our a modest family, she has seen me nude a few time either whiles I was being taken to ER or just accidentally. We treat this like if we accidentally saw her masturbation mistakes happen, no biggy, move on. The human body is beautiful and not something bad. We should not need be ashamed, but modesty is key.
But for a year now once she understood that it is about love and growing trust and closeness. Etc. She has wanted to experiment with me and the wife. We have tried to change her view. To show her that she will find a special person.. ND so much more. Yet we remain with her having a fixation on that. Nothing so far has made a Impact. We want to answer any questions she has, but guide her away from this idea she has. If we go in with a flat statement of despite your side we cant, I cant, or your mom cant... any answer that leads to a firm no cases her to react ND seek this type of attention in many other ways.. my fear is she won't grow out of it, we can't find do a solution that shows her that WHT she wants isn't right. Any ideas