my 11 month old wont come to me anymore

[orlagh88]

Hi everyone ,thanks for reading my post , I'm a first time mother , ove looked online to see if anybody else is going through this but cant seem to find much , my daughter recently has stopped coming to me , if I'm holding her shel cry and reach out her arms to her dad , if he's holding her and I put my arms out to her she will turn into him completely away from me . Its absolutely breaking my heart,I just sat in tears last night over it. I dont know why she is doing this all of a sudden . She goes to everybody else but will not come to me . I cant seem to make her laugh like she used to anymore either ,its getting me down so much ,I'm feeling like a bad mother and like she doesn't love me as much as her father. Has anybody else experienced this or is anyone able to shed some light as to why she is doing this? Thank you for reading...

[orlagh88]

Thanks for responding , her dad has been laid off from work so he's around a lot now but I would be her main care giver , she's gone fussy with food ,I'm the only one that can get her to eat and night time she's difficult at bed time so it comes down to me to put her to bed and settle her ,he's not able for her when she goes through her difficult moments so I have to step in. What iv noticed is if I leave the room and walk back in she doesn't seem bothered but if dad walks in and out of the room she's all smiles and hands out to him . His mother keeps commenting on it saying she loves her father so much ,I dont know if its the comments from his mother that have made me notice this . Its just so upsetting , when she's screaming in temper he isn't able for it at all ,its me that hugs her and gets hit by her until she calms . I feel like her bind is stronger to him even though I do all the hard stuff with her.i dont want to seem petty and jealous because its great she loves her dad , his mother always tries to turn it into a competition of who my daughter goes to and who she loves more ,if her dad is holding her his mother will always say to me "put your arms out see if she will go to u" and when she hugs away from me she turns to everyone and says "oh my god did u see that she wants her daddy "guess its gotten to me. I feel afraid to put my arms out to her infront of people incase she womt go to me in front of them . Its upsetting me so much ,this was my first child and her dad didn't want her ,I wanted her more than anything ,its hurting to see what she's doing now and I don't understand why all of a sudden she doesn't seem to want me , I was always the one reading to her ,singing ,or sitting on the ground playing with her. Has anybody any ideas or do I just have to take it on the chin that she doesn't seem bothered with me anymore.

[RockRose]

Are you the baby's main caregiver?  

I've seen girl babies this age suddenly prefer their dads,  but it's a little unusual that she prefers everyone else over you.  

That's not typical.  Has there been a change in the home - are you gone more than usual,  for instance,  or have there been other changes?