behavior

[crazyboys]

My 8 year old boy acts like a baby he cries or wines alot.  He has started hitting his younger brother.  Sometimes he is very hyper at home. His teachers don't have trouble with him.

[JohnsJ34]

i completely understand i am going through the same problem but its getting better now try talking to your son take him out to a movie go to an arcade center ask him what it is he wants to do or just get some cards and play him for candy or something KIDS LOVE THAT I know it might be tough right now but when it all boils down to it he is still your son and he wants to be treated equal you might not see it but he does he sees that the  younger one is getting treated differently and you might expect him to be more mature about it but reality is he's not so just be patient and try some of them methods and hopefully everything will work out for you

[margypops]

How does the older boy behave to him as there is 4 years differance is he kind or does he call him names aswell The 8 year old is crying because he is unhappy, buying stuff wont solve the problem, My feeling is the girls and Possibly the oldest boy are bullying him and you have to stop them ,the behavior will continue otherwise. You seem to know  this as you say they call him names may be you need to be firm about that behavior, calling names is bullying.,especially if they are mean names.Its a shame he doesnt want to go to his Dads as maybe they could do things together.,may be something to work on.Is it possible the others are jealous of your attention to the youngest that is quite common.Keep your eyes open on what is happening .

[venuslight]

This is the reason why I just registered here.  Want to see if I can get any ideas on how to deal with my 8 yr old son crying all the time.  We are a family of 5-Myself, my husband, 2 daughters (13 & 14), and my 8 yr old son.  We are a pretty tight family although my daughters have no patience with my son.  But he can also make us lose our patience because he is so demanding..  Almost never wants to do things for himself.  He takes the names that my girls call him too seriously.  I have warned the girls to stop but suspect they still call him names when I'm not around.  His teacher has told me that he cries in class.  I am going to sign him up for Tae Kwan Do to see if they can help.  I am really running out of ideas & am very frustrated with this situation

[Danale]

Perhaps he is acting out because his father is not in his life.  He doesn't want to see his father and you have said that they don't get along.  Maybe you need to explore that.  I know it must be frustrating but what kind of one on one time do you spend with him?  Is it time that is focused on your son and what he wants to do or is it time where you are taking him with you to run errands and so forth?  How about trying to play games with him on a regular basis or doing something else together that he wants to do (take him fishing, minature golfing, etc.).  How do you treat the relationship between he and his father?  You said you do not make him see his dad but is that because his father is harming your sons or are you just giving into your son and how do you refer to his father, is it in a postive way (even if the father is difficult) or if you say negative things about his father is he mirroring your thoughts and ideas?  Having no relationship with his father is traumatic.  If his father is caring and loving, then you need to try to encourage a relationship between them and always provide a safety net.  A child of 8 still needs his parents to decide what is best for them in a caring and loving manner.  He is acting out for attention, I think you need to figure out why and give or get him the attention he needs.   Good luck.

[crazyboys]

He does get one on one time.  His father & i are not together i dont make him go to his dads because he doesnt want to go.  I do want he wants to do and he is still not happy.   I buy him things  and he wants more he thinks money grows on trees.  He acts out at school but not like at home. For the most part he gets along with his little brother. His older brother is a different story but there are four years between them.  He doesnt get along with his father and never did. He doesnt not listen to me like he should. Alot of changes have happened to him in the past year .

[margypops]

Is it possible the younger brother gets more attention and he could feel left out,possibly some jealousy there. Hence the acting like a baby he sees it works for the younger one ,he is after your attention, perhaps you and his Dad could give him one to one time, playing games and maybe something he likes to do, he is really asking to join in and trying to get attention by acting out. If he is okay at school its sending you the Message its at home where the problem lies. Try it make a lot of him it will amaze you .