My 12 year old son is being accused of touching one of his class mates.

[simplysweet1]

Recently my son has been being mentally bullied by one of his classmates. He is trying to alienate my son and put him down all the time. So last night I rang his mother after her son scratched my son on his arm for trying to type something on his laptop. She was very rude to me and said my son was lying and that he is looking for attention from me and that she is not willing to listen to me as it was coming from my son. This is not the fist time I have tried to speak to her about it, and it was the same kind on answer then, my son was lying etc.
So later on last night I received a txt saying that I was acting like a bully and shouting at her (when I really didn't). She then went on to say that every chance my son gets, he is trying to touch her son't bum and genitalia and it's been going on for months. She then went on about how my son is jealous of her son etc and said he was lonely and looking for attention.
I am horrified with these allogations, I have spoken to my son and he was gobsmacked and very upset about it. We are very close and we talk to eachother about everything, I asked him if anythign at all had happened that could make this boy think that you have touched him, he said no. I believe him, his reaction was a genuine.
Also, 2 weeks ago, this mother rang to see if my son could go with him mountain biking, I instantly said no because of the bulliyng. I just wonder why she would do this if she thought my son was touching her son.
I really am concerned and feel that my son is telling me the truth and I'm so upset that this boy is doing this to my son.
My son is a warm, loving, caring boy. We have family time every weekend and talk all the time, we really are a close family, so I have no doubt that he would have told me if anything would have happened.
What do I do? I have spoke to the headmaster this morning who is speaking to the teachers/boys today.
Thank you

[AnnieBrooke]

I think speaking to the appropriate people at school, which you did, was exactly the right thing to do.  The school should separate the boys.  I would not be talking to the mother on the phone, because it just opens you to her accusations, unless you have a neutral third party listening in.

[Sandman2]

Since most of this seems to be happening at school - that is a good place to deal with this.  You made the right decision to talk to them.  Also, it sounds like your son is sitting close to the other boy.  They should be separated from each other, and your son should avoid him at recess.
  At this age, this mental bullying does go on.  And it's possible that the two kids really do kind of enjoy each other's company.  It would be interesting to talk to their teacher and find out what the teacher is seeing.  Because the other way of dealing with this would be a more positive approach of getting the kids together and talking this out.  The headmaster could be very helpful here.   Good luck!

[MarkLakewood3367]

You need to seek out family therapy immediately.  The mental health therapist would be in the best position of sorting everything out.