I also know how to question children. I didnt ask any leading questions, i didnt show any emotions of fear or anger, and i never made her feel that she or my brother were going to get in trouble. So i know i didnt plant any ideas in her head
I believe you and believe your daughter. Look for another place, put her into day care, and tell your parents that you really cannot have him in the same room alone with her, or in a room alone with her except for other children.
I don't know why he would be like this, it is certainly possible that he has been inappropriately touched. But your prime duty now is to your daughter. It is likely your parents won't take this seriously so you have to.
Hire a babysitter for any time you will be away and tell her that her main job is to keep the 10-year-old from being away alone with your daughter.
Tell your daughter that it's time to have the fun adventure of having your own place, once you find one. Don't tell her until you do, so she does not associate it with the activity with your brother.
Thank you Annie, i'll keep that in mind. Its a very devastating situation for me. I'd like to help both of them not just one. Thank you for your input
if he's the most popular kid in school she should consider herself lucky. but seriously, what they did was illegal, and certainly won't help your daughters sexuality when she grows up. they both need to understand how serious it is. i'm not old fashioned in the sense that i would agree on spanking a child, but when it comes to something so serious, and considering his other behavior, i would recommend sending him somewhere.
also if your daughter doesn't want it, then i assume it won't happen, but to be safe tell her to kick him in the balls if he tries it again. if it does happen again, i would get the authorities involved. also, i know she might be far too young, but i would recommend giving your daughter the bird and the bees talk, or at least tell her about love and tell her those things should only happen with somebody she loves and trusts and has known for a long time.
I know this is an older post but I just happened upon it. I'm hoping you are still around?? Do u have an update? How are things going now? This is an extremely difficult situation because BOTH children are so young and you want to help them both! I believe it's your parents responsibility to take this situation more seriously!! If he's done it once what's to stop him from doing it again?? This issue definitely needs to be addressed with him and he needs to understand how serious of an offence this was! Their has to be consequences for inappropriate behavior or how else will he learn?? Its not Ok and he needs to KNOW that! I worry about his future if he's not stopped and taught correctly NOW before he does irreparable damage and gets into serious trouble!