5YO Daughter kissed two boys at school HELP!!!!

[Ally777]

Help!!!  I have a couple of issues

My 4YO Daughter, 5 in Feb, came home from school telling us 'something wonderful has happened at school today'  When we stopped and asked her what is was she told us she kissed two of her male friends 5YO on the lips!!!!

I took her aside as I always do and told her that she is not aloud to kiss boys or have a boyfriend until she is 25 and married.  I have always encouraged her to make a new friend every day, and to try and stick more with the girls, but I feel girls find her fluffy, overbearing and bossy(?) I think...

What do I do now?  She loves and has all of the Disney movies and I feel she gets all that slush from the films.

Also, she is very bright, and top in all subjects but hasn't appeared so far to have made a good friend.  The rest of the class seem to have found their groups already, she is in the same class as 6yo and doesn't live near anyone to play with.  

A couple of times she has come home and told me a couple of the kids have drunk her juice at lunch time and have told her she isn't aloud to tell the teacher, these kids wont let my daughter play with them at break times and just seem to be running off on her, she has been susseptable to bullying in the past but thinks they are just kidding her on and lets the kids do whatever it is they want to do to her, she finds it hard to stand up for herself, could this be self expression?  my husband tells me that kids are fickle and they all just run around mad with no mallace behind it.  She is always asking kids to come over to our house to play, but I don't know their parents, who would let their kids go to someone's house they dont know in the day and age!?

I find it difficult to mix with the other mums, I am very independant and don't need a group of woman in my life to feel comfortable, there is a group of mums who seem to meet up day after day at the school and they bitched about a mum coming over and then tried to isolate her from the group, I hate that and have since distanced myself from them.  Now they just smirk and laugh at me when I walk past them and their kids seem to now  just ignore my daughter!

What do I do now, there are so many issues I feel I haven't explained properly, should I encourage her to take a dance class?  I feel I am harsh and to the point, could my daughter simply be reenacting my behaviour to her (being bossy or is she simply being a leader?)  I have explained how to deal with senarios if kids don't want to play her game but they simply don't want to play with her, she tells me she sometimes plays with the P3/4, 8/9yolds, I think these kids are too old and maybe teaching her things beyond her years.  I am very fretful, and at some point she will pick up on my anziety, she has been very tearie this last 3 weeks and has wet her pants too...HELP!!!!!

[Encephalomalcia]

From your comment about not dating and not being allowed to kiss is talk way above her for her age.  I am wondering how many times you have pulled her aside to talk to her like you would a 12 year old.  If she kisses boys at school, what I would simply say is that she could get germs from kissing such as Strep.  Tell her that you would not want her to get sick with a real bad sore throat.  She will have to learn that being bossy is usually not what other kids like.  She will learn this in time.  Kids personalities change throughout the years, so maybe this is a year that she is not popular with her classmates.  Next year she may be.  It also could be that she is more mature than they are now or the opposite.  Don't worry about it.  I am sure everything will be different next year.  

[Ally777]

Thank you for your lovely comment, yes we have always tried to speak to her in a grown up manor, but mentioned getting married at 25 because there isnt a day that goes by she doesnt mention getting married!  xx
She seems obsessed and I blame the movies