What is wrong with my child?

[jhope66]

For the past 18 years my son has been a problem. at 3yr he abused playmates and was kicked out of day care.elementary school he had conduct problems everyday. Middle school it only got worse in one incident my son manipulated 30 boys in beating another boy senseless. He acts if no one but himself matters and is very sadistic he also acts calm as if nothing is wrong with any situation that I find hostile I have also found him mutilating animals*cats*. Thats where I drew the straw I need advice on what I should do he denies anything is wrong with him. He steals from neighbors. 2 years ago he caught our nearby forest on fire. He drinks our alcohol and denies it. He manipulates any situation. He is very impulsive and very arrogant .He has sent 1 of our sons to the hospital 2 times. He is now 18 has been in jail once and from what I've been told beats his girlfriends. He denies it all even if we all know he is lying. I have found him to be very hedonistic and narcissistic. Also he feels entitlement for everything cars etc. Now at 18 yr old he has no real long term goals besides from his own words *I will rule the world* I am afraid for my son I need advice on what could be wrong with him and all these years I am ashamed of myself for never taking him to a psychiatrist. All in all over the years he has caused trauma and feels no regret. HELP ME

[LRM1021]

This man needs psychiatric help. He will not get any better without it. Since he is an adult, he must go there and get help himself. If he refuses to do so, and I bet he will because he sounds like he has very serious antisocial/ narcissistic issues, then you can only try to have his committed against his will if you believe he is a danger to himself or to others, and then they will only keep him if they agree with you.

I think all you can do for him now is to urge him to get psychiatric help --- because you love him and don't want any more bad things to happen to him. I think praying for him is a good idea too.

But he is an adult-- he has to fix this himself now.

[treazzure007]

you used the term that came to mind for me - sadistic.  he needs jesus.  the boy is a downward spiral and im sorry to cut you the bad news but what you couldnt do as far as correcting him in childhood, you sure cant do now.  forget it and if you havent started already, pray for the man