When to tell my daughter I am her Biologic Father

[pete75]

I have a daughter who is 10 years old. When her mother got pregnant she was still married so my daughter thinks someone else is her father. Her "father" was present for only the first 2 years of her life before divorcing her mother.I have been spending some time with my daughter lately, and I am referred as a friend of both her mother and my daughter. We live very far appart but my schedule allows me to visit her several times a year and plan to do so more. Her mother allows me to interact with my daughter and start building a closer relationship, and I appreciate that, but expects me to act as a surrogate father for now. I am of the idea of telling my daughter sooner rather than later, but she wants me to build a relationship with daughter and maybe in the future disclosing this information to her. I just want to do whatever is in my daughter's best interest. Even I can't compensate for years of abscence, for some reason she is very interested in me and I want to be in her life too. She knows me since she was born, with very sporadic encounters over her life. I am in my early 30s, single, no drug related problems, financially in excellent terms and available to  my daughter. When do you think is the right time to tell her that I am her real biologic father?
Thanks

[shamishusee]

I myself dont think u should wait any longer to tell her too.  But, If I were u I will start with a story when she is alone with you. My story will start like to her " babe, One of my friend was sad and told me that he has a son who is 15 yrs old and the kid doesn't know that he has a father who is alive.  Isn't it sad?  see her reaction first, then continue saying that mom and dad didn't get along or what ever your story is but make sure to bring the 15 old in the picture all the time.  See her reaction?  Ask her if your friend should tell his son, now that they talk that he is the real father? see her answer, and they if eveything falls in to place, ask her what if her father comes and say that you are his daughter?  see  her reaction to this and then if u feel its the right time.... well good luck that your time....
kids love stories... i do that to my 5 yr old when i need to bring a point to him in stread of telling him his negativity right  away. try... & goog luck.. let me know ... my prays will be there for u & ur daughte.

[lovely909]

I dont think you should wait any longer to tell your daughter. As a mother, I understand what the mother is feeling on waiting to tell her but she is at the age that would understand and if she shows interest in being with you and enjoys your company, then whats the problem? tell her now before shes another year older.