I have a son who is 2 (on Friday) and he is what I would call a "late bloomer". He didn't start crawling until he was almost a year old, he didn't start walking until he was about 19 months old. We took him to a specialist when he was 18 months old, and they told us that they now give children up until they are 22 months old to start walking. The doctor checked his leg movements and everything and he said that he was not worried about it. My son than started walking 2 weeks later. Now he just runs around and everything.
My worries and issues are this: Since he started sitting, if he gets mad, he bangs his head on the floor really hard. Hard enough to bruise himself. He hits himself and he also hits us (his dad and I). He has also bit us, especially me and made me bleed. This last time when he hurt himself really bad is when I started worrying more than ever. He got mad after he threw his bottle out of his crib, and he started crying bloody murder and banged his head on his crib so hard that his whole forehead was black and blue. He scratches himself too and I am worried that there might be a sensory issue with him, or his pain sensors are not what they should be. I have his 2 year old well child this Friday, and of course will bring this up to his doctor, but I am wondering if any parent here has ever experienced anything like this?!?!?!?!? Our children don't see violence in our home, we have a very good, healthy relationship between my husband and I, and also with our children. I am a stay at home mom and I have a lot of time with the kids, and also my husband works from home, so we are always around our children. We don't beat our kids, but we definitely discipline them, timeouts and take stuff away as we see needed. My 2 year old has timeouts too, and he thinks its funny and he will laugh in my face. He has now also started spitting inside the house and seems to spit when he is mad too. Another thing I noticed with him, is that sometimes he will cover his ears, as if some sound is bothering him. The TV isn't loud, or anything, nothing out of the ordinary going on. He does it in the shower too, and not only when his face gets wet. Is this a normal thing?
He is also supposed to be talking more than he does, I am starting to worry that not only was he delayed in crawling and walking, but now with talking too... I am not sure if there are any issues with him, developmentally and if so, I am not sure what it could be. Does his delayed walking/talking/crawling go hand in hand with his temper/anger and abuse? I am just really worried, and if anyone has any experience with any of these things, and advice on how to handle it and what else I could do, look for, read it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance!