i appreciate your response but it is my house we live in.i can try an evict but that isnt where my heart is an would make me look guilty.i am hoping for an answer maybe im a dreamer but im not ready to throw in the towel
kids lie.
it's what they do.
my daughter was around 3-4 when she first told my mother I pushed her down. My mom lost her s.h.i.t. on me, and I assured her I never once pushed her, joking if I did, there would CLEARLY be physical marks on her.
Anyways, long story short, a few days later when Riley was at grandma's, my mom called and told me she had come up to her and said 'grandma, WHY did you do that?', confused my mom asked 'do what?' she replied, 'you hit me!' and she was like, wtf. no I didn't.
then, a few weeks later, I was picking her up from my moms and she was across the room from me, my mom was in the living room, and Riley yelled out randomly 'you just pushed me!' and we both (me and my mom) stared at eachother, realizing we were both nowhere NEAR her...
She bit another kid at school, and 4 people witnessed it. She still denies it.
Kids are liars, lol. They're awesome, but they're liars. Every parent knows that, and it seems like she (your gf) is almost using this as her 'out'.
So it sounds like they are still living with you? Since you said they live in your house and you don't want to evict them?
Sounds to me like your girlfriend KNOWS the kid is lying. If she believed it, and truly loved her kid, she would have moved out ASAP.
I would try to just have one final, honest conversation with the girlfriend-- and maybe the child herself should be present, I'm less certain about that, maybe two conversations?-- and tell her/them, Look, I didn't do this horrible thing, never would, but if you truly believe I did and that I might do it again, then you should leave. This way you're not evicting them so much as challenging your girlfriend to take a true stand rather than making idle threats while decidedly NOT doing what I think most women would do if they believed something like this had happened.
Good luck!
PS I know this part if going to be super hard for you, given how close it sounds like you once were with this little girl, but no matter how things work out-- even if your girlfriend ultimately believes you and/or the kid confesses-- DO NOT SPEND ANY MORE TIME ALONE WITH HER!!! EVER!!! As someone else already said, she might decide to accuse you of molestation next. Make sure there is at least one other person around every time you are with her from here on out!!!
Get up, and walk out and don't look back. This child is DANGEROUS to you, and the next thing she might say is that you are molesting her and your life will be over.