Hello, we are at our wits end and don't know where to turn (so I am greatful that I found this forum). Our son will be 5 in September and he has never pooped on the toilet. He won't even sit on the toilet. He doesn't say he is scared or anything like that, he just says I don't want to. We still buy pull ups because if we don't he will hold it until he has accidents in his underwear. He will have the accidents over and over and hide his underwear behind the couch, in his closet etc. We taught him to pee standing up, and he never really "sat" to pee. He has been "pee" potty trained since he was 2.5 years old. This is getting so frustrating, embarassing, etc. and no one has provided us any advise that has worked. We try rewards, taking stuff away, threatening etc. He just has no interest in going anywhere except in a pull up. He has also been having some learning difficulties as well, but not sure that could be related to the toilet training issue (just behind others of his same age with letter and number recognition etc.) but we have been told there is nothing we can do for that until he gets into the public school system and they can test him (Kindergarten). Our 11 year old is gifted (we found out when she was in 2nd grade), so this is very hard not to compare them. She never had issues like this with the toilet and our pediatrician has been no help at all.
Any advice is very much appreciated