my 4 year old daughter

[sugarluv33]

id put my 4 year old daughter  tamara to bed and my 8mth old son aiden, went to bed myself woke up to find my 4 year old had gone into my sons bedroom put her pillow in his cot, took his nappy and pyjamas off and found her pyjama bottoms on the floor  at the side of aidens cot was in total shock sent her to her room, when i calmed down i went to speak to tamara to ask her why she had took aidens nappy off and her pyjama bottoms off  tamaras answer was because i wanted to so i told her it was naughty and not to do this again, so i have decided to try talk to her in the morning.  Also i let tamara take her friend jody up to tamaras bedroom to play with her toys while i was downstairs with my friend went upstairs to check they were ok found tamara in her bed with no clothes on in the past ive found tamara like this with another friend she had in her room also her auntie and uncle have found her rubbing up against furniture,  I am very concerned because are these things a sign that someone could be abusing her.  there as been other behaviour like one occasion when she had my mates daughter upstairs and tamara urinated on her dance mat in her room in front of her friend.  Also tamara is jealous towards aiden but i try my best to not make her feel left out and give her plenty of hugs and let her know that i love her very much.  I just hope no one is abusing tamara or is her behaviour normal part of growing up.   I would be most grateful if you can give me advice.

[margypops]

It does sound as if she has learnt this behavior maybe from her other friends and is curious, it could be as simple as that ...children are curious about their bodies, however it may be a good idea to do more supervision and be aware of this, dont let the friends go upstiars now you know they are doing this, there is usually one instigator possibly an older,child, it could be she has seen this behavior and is copying it, you could mention it also to the friends  Mom, dont leave them alone together ..