my 5 year old son is aggressive

[lgolden]

hi i have 4 children aged 9,7,6,5 and my 5 year old son is very aggressive at home he started school in july and we had a meeting with his teacher a few weeks ago and we asked about his behavior she said he was a kind, helpful, loving child but at home he is so aggressive to he like to hit his brother and sisters he has ever hit me and his dad he wont listen to us if we say no he has bad tantrums last year he broke 2 tv's  but none of my other children are like that and he gets most of the attention how can i control the tantrums.

[margypops]

your last sentence that he is good when he is with you and your husband rang a bell in my head ,, is it possible that the older children tease, make fun and are winding him up till he gets into a state and then throws a tantrum, this happens quite a lot when older children are jealous of the younger ones and the attention they get .So my question is what are the older siblings like with him, if you think there may be any hurtful behavior or teasing going I on I would suggest that you supervise them when they are together .this can be very upsetting for a child .and does affect the way they all get on in the future .I see he is also good at school... I think you have a jealousy problem so make sure the other children get equal attention as he does . good luck

[lgolden]

hi when he has a tantrum he likes to throw thing and the tv's just got in the way he didn't set out to brake the tv's his aggression is triggered by the word( NO) or if any of my other children have anything that he wants or  if they want my attention when he is sat on my knee but when he is at school he does as he is told he plays nice with the other kids he is the perfect child it is also when he is tired don't get me wrong we do have days when he is a lovely little boy and he is good when he is on his own with me or my husband

[benjimom]

Maybe he "holds" it together at school, but loses it at home.  Does anything trigger the aggression?  Also, breaking Tv's is pretty serious aggression.  Give us more info.