5 year old behaviour problem

[rimi76]

my 5 yr old child ,doesn't listen to anyone ,it seems he cannot follow instructions.he is hitting schoolmates,and the otherday he hurt himself and put the blame on a classmate(this he shared with me after a lot of forcing at home)he answers back whenever given orders and throws tantrums when not allowed to have or do something.other kids aqlways single him out and do not want him in their circle.I am confused with the complains about my child from school.he used to be the apple of the teachers eyes but now he is the devil.he sometimes talks like a teenager.He shows lack of interest in going out to play,with his ball or bicycle(we donot have neighbours or any place for child play excepting for the weekends),says he is bored when indoors .wants always to watch the T.V.or movies.please help.

[benjimom]

Does the school have a psychologist who could evaluate him, it's very frustratijng I know and you are a GOOD mom!!  

[rimi76]

thank you for responding to my problem.MY son is in kindergarten,and does a decent job of it.,but it seems he cannot understand how his teacher tells him,and then i have to intervene and teach him.And i have put him up for karate classes,which he attends every alternative day.We are based in Tanzania,here we have very little option for kids and the prices for outing is exorbitant.But i do arrange playdates though not often as i work.I would be really appreciative of any help from this forum,to get back my sweet baby,just a little bit older though.

[specialmom]

Is your boy in kindergarten or preschool?  How does he do academically?  As far as his activities, I will tell  you that many kids do much much better with behavior if they are physically active.  He needs outlets for this and you have to provide them be it taking him somewhere like a gym or park, or getting him invovled in a sport or athletic games or provididing the physical play for him at home.  Every day should include some of this type of play.  The nervous system functions much better with it.  In terms of peer interaction, can you help him along?  Some kids need guidance on how to interact with friends.  A playdate in which you plot it out and supervise may help.  During his time at home, provide games and stimulating things for him to do and teach him along the way about fairness and gamemenship.  If you offer to go bike riding with him, I bet he'll go.  Or go for a hike or etc.  What types of discipline does his teacher use?  And has he had any big changes in lately too?