Natta:
That is so true. I try so hard to let him come home and do what he wants. Like a small snack his choice, a dvd also his choice. I let him have his time for about an hour or so. Then I fix supper, we eat and do homework if we have it. Its the time for bath and I hear gah I know, so I say that wasn't nice and will say ughhhh and stomp up the steps. Or don't you think I know already. Mostly with me its the smart comments I get in return. I don't make him do alot. He does have to pick up his toys and put his plate up after supper. Typical things but still attitude is the word I am looking for and I have it worse me and his dad are divorced so it gets thrown in my face well dad don't punish me or anything.
Ahh all the control issues with the Kindergarten start
Just do not engage in power struggles - he wants to bring a scooter - good
He already gets told what to do all day long in Kindy - full day is a lot for a 5 year old, and then he probbaly gets homework as well. No time for free play.....
I just pick my battles....the less I fight, the less insentive he has to be oppositional
Has he started kindergarden yet. My son is starting the same behavior and he just turned 5 and also started school. I think for my son it is the change with school also he knows brother gets to stay home and play and he can't.