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When did I conceive ?
Im confused ! period ended around april 26-27 , I had sex april 28th I know for a fact he came inside me . then I had sex with a different guy april 30 , im not sure if he came or not , im pretty sure he didnt . which could be the father ?
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When did your period (that ended April 26-28) begin? Are your cycles super regular (always come at a certain number of days, like, every 28 days?) Or do they vary?
I'm trying to rule out (or in) the possibility that the May 12 sex could have been in the right time range. Both of the guys were otherwise a bit early in relation to your period, unless your menstrual months are long (like 30 days) or irregular (like, sometimes your period comes on day 25 and sometimes it comes on day 32).
Busting in you doesn't actually matter, if the sex was unprotected a guy can get you pregnant without ejaculating in your body.
I'm trying to rule out (or in) the possibility that the May 12 sex could have been in the right time range. Both of the guys were otherwise a bit early in relation to your period, unless your menstrual months are long (like 30 days) or irregular (like, sometimes your period comes on day 25 and sometimes it comes on day 32).
Busting in you doesn't actually matter, if the sex was unprotected a guy can get you pregnant without ejaculating in your body.
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it ended maybe the 26 or the 27th i know it was off on the 28 bc i had sex that day .
that doesnt even make sense , how would mothersday sex get me pregnant if I got a positive test literally a week later
it began on the 20th
You say "How would Mother's Day sex get me pregnant if I got a positive test literally a week later?"
When I asked when you learned you were pregnant, you said "I realized I was pregnant yesterday." Today being May 25, presumably you meant May 24. Since Mother's Day was May 12, there would be plenty of time for a pregnancy test to be accurate by May 24 in twelve days.
If, on the other hand, you are saying you didn't learn you were pregnant just yesterday but took a pregnancy test on the 19th (literally a week after Mother's Day), yes, it would be early for a pregnancy to register on a home pregnancy test.
Here is what I think you are saying the timeline is.
Period began April 20
Sex with guy 1 April 28 unprotected (with ejaculation)
Sex with guy 2 April 30 unprotected (without ejaculation)
Sex with guy 1 May 12, presumably unprotected
Learned you were pregnant from a home pregnancy test -- either literally a week after Mother's Day (May 19) or May 24
A lot does hinge on how regularly your periods come. The question is, how long it usually is from day 1 of bleeding of one period, to day 1 of bleeding of the next period. You got pregnant from one of three sexual events. Ovulating on April 28 is possible, but it is only 8 days from the beginning of your last period, and if you were a woman with super regular menstrual months about 28 days long like clockwork, that would be a early for ovulation. April 30 is more likely, but it depends again on how long your months are. Could you have ovulated a lot later, like May 12? Not if you have exact 28-day cycles and your period came on April 20, but you could have if your periods come on a longer schedule or more randomly.
When I asked when you learned you were pregnant, you said "I realized I was pregnant yesterday." Today being May 25, presumably you meant May 24. Since Mother's Day was May 12, there would be plenty of time for a pregnancy test to be accurate by May 24 in twelve days.
If, on the other hand, you are saying you didn't learn you were pregnant just yesterday but took a pregnancy test on the 19th (literally a week after Mother's Day), yes, it would be early for a pregnancy to register on a home pregnancy test.
Here is what I think you are saying the timeline is.
Period began April 20
Sex with guy 1 April 28 unprotected (with ejaculation)
Sex with guy 2 April 30 unprotected (without ejaculation)
Sex with guy 1 May 12, presumably unprotected
Learned you were pregnant from a home pregnancy test -- either literally a week after Mother's Day (May 19) or May 24
A lot does hinge on how regularly your periods come. The question is, how long it usually is from day 1 of bleeding of one period, to day 1 of bleeding of the next period. You got pregnant from one of three sexual events. Ovulating on April 28 is possible, but it is only 8 days from the beginning of your last period, and if you were a woman with super regular menstrual months about 28 days long like clockwork, that would be a early for ovulation. April 30 is more likely, but it depends again on how long your months are. Could you have ovulated a lot later, like May 12? Not if you have exact 28-day cycles and your period came on April 20, but you could have if your periods come on a longer schedule or more randomly.
I went back into my phone my cycle started the 17th , &' stayed until the 26 or 27th .
&' nothing about my cycle is regular .
If your periods come on an irregular schedule, unfortunately the date of the latest one won't help tell when you might have ovulated. (Irregular cycles also have ovulation any time.) If you have long gaps of time between periods, even the possibility of ovulating on May 12 is not ruled out (that is, if you got your home pregnancy test result on May 24. And since you said "I realized I was pregnant yesterday" on May 25, that is what it sounds like). One possibility, the possibility of whether you got pregnant on May 12, can be checked by getting an early ultrasound.
If you get an ultrasound this upcoming week or the next week (no later than the first week of June), you can learn some useful things. You might have to shop around for a doctor willing to do an ultrasound this soon in a pregnancy, and you might have to pay out of pocket for the scan. And it might point to the three days when you had had sex with two guys, which would not help you decide which one is the dad. But if you can get one and if it does happen to indicate May 12 for conception, that would be great, because you could then be sure the April 30 guy was ruled out. If you do this, you have to do it quickly, because after pretty early in pregnancy the doctor will say an ultrasound has a margin for error (by week 12 it's plus or minus 7 days) if used to try to determine a conception date. But in your sixth or seventh week, an ultrasound can be spot-on for dating the pregnancy.
The reason the guy on April 30 is not ruled out is that sometimes sperm is in the man's urethra and rides into the woman's body on pre-ejaculatory fluid. We've had lots of women write in on this site who got pregnant even though the guy pulled out before ejaculating.
It is also remotely possible that if you were to get a good, clear ultrasound this next week, you might be able to distinguish between conception from sex on April 28 and April 30, but that is splitting a really fine hair and probably it won't be able to tell you that for sure.
If you do get the ultrasound this next week, be sure the doctor doesn't just ask when your last period was and write it down and base all calculations on that. Your periods are not going to be useful for this purpose, and in fact might be quite misleading, if they come on an irregular schedule. You might even want to tell the nurse that you aren't sure when your last period was, or at least be sure to say that your cycles are so irregular that your pregnancy can't be counted from when the last one began, and that you need an ultrasound for this reason. This is so they won't base any numbers and dates they give you on anything besides the measurements of the embryo.
Until you get an ultrasound, don't listen so much to the doc saying "x weeks pregnant," because your irregular cycles torpedo that being accurate. Counting "weeks pregnant" is done from the first day of the woman's last period, but it is based on 28-day cycles and ovulating on day 14, which you might not have done. You need them to tell you only dates based on ultrasound measurements of your actual baby, not on averages.
When you get your ultrasound, ask for the calendar date that the baby is due, based on the baby's developmental markers. They usually tell you the estimated due date even if you don't ask, but be sure you get the due date after they read the ultrasound.
Once they tell you the baby's estimated due date, take that home and either count backwards from it 266 days on a calendar, or just put it into an online conception calculator and it will do the counting for you, and the date it produces is the estimated day of conception.
Like I said, getting one that suggests the estimated day of conception is April 30 doesn't rule out anyone. But other dates might.
If you get an ultrasound this upcoming week or the next week (no later than the first week of June), you can learn some useful things. You might have to shop around for a doctor willing to do an ultrasound this soon in a pregnancy, and you might have to pay out of pocket for the scan. And it might point to the three days when you had had sex with two guys, which would not help you decide which one is the dad. But if you can get one and if it does happen to indicate May 12 for conception, that would be great, because you could then be sure the April 30 guy was ruled out. If you do this, you have to do it quickly, because after pretty early in pregnancy the doctor will say an ultrasound has a margin for error (by week 12 it's plus or minus 7 days) if used to try to determine a conception date. But in your sixth or seventh week, an ultrasound can be spot-on for dating the pregnancy.
The reason the guy on April 30 is not ruled out is that sometimes sperm is in the man's urethra and rides into the woman's body on pre-ejaculatory fluid. We've had lots of women write in on this site who got pregnant even though the guy pulled out before ejaculating.
It is also remotely possible that if you were to get a good, clear ultrasound this next week, you might be able to distinguish between conception from sex on April 28 and April 30, but that is splitting a really fine hair and probably it won't be able to tell you that for sure.
If you do get the ultrasound this next week, be sure the doctor doesn't just ask when your last period was and write it down and base all calculations on that. Your periods are not going to be useful for this purpose, and in fact might be quite misleading, if they come on an irregular schedule. You might even want to tell the nurse that you aren't sure when your last period was, or at least be sure to say that your cycles are so irregular that your pregnancy can't be counted from when the last one began, and that you need an ultrasound for this reason. This is so they won't base any numbers and dates they give you on anything besides the measurements of the embryo.
Until you get an ultrasound, don't listen so much to the doc saying "x weeks pregnant," because your irregular cycles torpedo that being accurate. Counting "weeks pregnant" is done from the first day of the woman's last period, but it is based on 28-day cycles and ovulating on day 14, which you might not have done. You need them to tell you only dates based on ultrasound measurements of your actual baby, not on averages.
When you get your ultrasound, ask for the calendar date that the baby is due, based on the baby's developmental markers. They usually tell you the estimated due date even if you don't ask, but be sure you get the due date after they read the ultrasound.
Once they tell you the baby's estimated due date, take that home and either count backwards from it 266 days on a calendar, or just put it into an online conception calculator and it will do the counting for you, and the date it produces is the estimated day of conception.
Like I said, getting one that suggests the estimated day of conception is April 30 doesn't rule out anyone. But other dates might.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi, just on those facts alone, either guy could be the dad.
When did you figure out you are pregnant?
Were the only two times you had sex after your period those two times you mentioned?
When did you figure out you are pregnant?
Were the only two times you had sex after your period those two times you mentioned?
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i realized i was pregnant yesterday , &' yes , the 28th and the 30th then mothers day with the 28th guy again .
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