help me please.

[sillyme93]

Hello...I have a few questions... I had sex with guy a on January 19th,a week later I started having sex with guy b....I later then had my period..Im pretty sure it was my period...I couldnt tell a difference while I was on it but I wasnt looking ither to see if I was prego or not..then after my period I was still doing guy b...I missed my period next month and went to the doctors on april 4th and he put my as 8 weeks 0 days... which means I got prego on feb 7th.. I was messing with guy b around that time.... but is there any way my ultrasound could be off by 19 days?? could what I think was my period could have not been? or do you think Im stressing to much? I think about this all day everyday...help me please?

[Perbre]

I'm going through the same thing and despite of all the evidence point out to my current partner I have that " What if " thought ... :/

[AnnieBrooke]

Yeah, I do know.  Often enough, posters on this forum either have dates  so close together that it's impossible even to make an intelligent guess, or else they have lots of time in between two events and there is no way the first sex could have produced the baby, yet they just can't stop worrying and brooding.  A whole lot of the time in the latter cases, obsessing over paternity is a stand-in for facing that they slept with someone for a bad reason.  In that kind of situation, no amount of counting on a calendar will remove the fact that they did something that they are not proud of.  

The only way to get rid of obsessive worry over paternity in cases where it is unwarranted is to face the main issue, which can be the fact that the person acted against their own standards.  And then, to resolve never to act out in such a way again.  (There are two kinds of people living with integrity in the world.  A few never had it tested, making it easy to live an honorable life.  But most people who live with high integrity have made mistakes and learned from them, and the lesson was strong enough that they never failed again.  So you're not in the first group, you certainly can be in the second.  

Anyway, give it a try if this is the issue for you.  If you deal with the reason you feel guilty, you'll doubtless be able to stop worrying that the dates give you no chance that the dad is the guy from January 19.

[sillyme93]

Cuz guy a was somebody out of spite...idk its just always going through my mind..I always got that what if.ya know?

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi sillyme,

Here's your info laid out:

- sex with the first guy on January 19
- then a period
- presumed ovulation date measured by early ultrasound: February 21

What are you scared about?  

[sillyme93]

Yes.. He did an ultrasound at eight weeks... A vaginal one..I'm just scared..do you think it could be by any chance be guy a?

[RockRose]

Your doctor's estimation of 8 weeks pregnant on April 4th means he believes you got pregnant around Feb. 21.  When docs estimate age of a pregnancy,  they count all the way back to when they think your last regular period began so essentially you get two "free weeks" to start your pregnancy.  ;D

Did he do an ultrasound to measure your pregnancy at 8 weeks,  or did he estimate based on your dates of when you had your periods?   If he did an ultrasound on April 4,  it's pretty reliable and highly likely you got pregnant around Feb. 21.