Paternity matters

[Preggers3]

I am 5 months pregnant
and i had sex with 2 people 3 days apart
the first person i had sex with for about 45 seconds and we did not use a condom, he was not near ejaculation, and had not ejaculated earlier on either and he also had went pee.
the second person did not put on a condom until over half way through intercourse he did *** into the condom and as far as i know it was not broken.
which situation would pregnancy be more likely

[jesslee83]

it's good that you were honest with both of them now.....hopefully it will lessen the confusion later, but either way, they are both going to get a surprise.....even though  you are pregnant, you still need to use condoms to prevent std's....now pregnant, we "expecters" are easily susceptible to things like yeast infections, and U/P sex with an infected person(wether known or not), can drag a YI into something alot more funkier.....

[Preggers3]

yeah i should have been more careful but im not worried about that now i already know i dont have anything ive been tested and yeah ive talked to them both and let them know

[Kim1989]

yeah my sons father was having unprotected sex with me and having unprotected sex with his ex among others. i got tested asap right after i found out he was cheating on me and i came up cleard of everything thank good but I AM VERY LUCKY!

i keep hearing everyone talking about unprotected sex like everyones going to like me and not have any stds, but stds are out there!

having unprotected sex can lead to pregnancys and AIDS, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Herpies, Chlamydia, just to name a few

HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX LED ME TO A PREGNANCY, AND THANKFULLY NOT AND STD. IT WAS VERY SCARRY TO LEARN THAT A MAN I HAD BEEN SLEEPING WITH FOR MONTHS AND MONTHS WAS HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX WITH MANY OTHERS. I COULD HAVE CAUGHT ANYTHING! I DIDNT CATCH ANYTHING BUT I COULD HAVE.

[mami1323]

See this is where it gets sticky.  This is an open forum and people are allowed to give their opinions.  Kim gives hers and others give theirs.  She's speaking from experience.  Yes she had a son, yes she made a mistake, she's giving her take on things based on her past experience.  If anything she has a right to give it because she's been there, done that.  Is it really helpful to say..."oh sweetie, it will be ok..."  No sometimes it won't.  Pregnancy is least of the worries, Aids is a bigger concern.  Give advice but say yes there are a ton of diseases out there that you need to be worried about more so than pregnancy.  Again, just my opinion and I to am allowed to have one.

To the original poster - like all the above posters said, you slept with these guys too close together to be able to tell who the father would be.  You will just need to take a paternity test after the babies are born.  Do both these guys know that either could potentially be the father?

[Kim1989]

i wasnt beating her up i spoke the truth. i gave her adivce! thers no way she will be able to know and she needs a test. and i think its nuts to hear how girls out there are having unprotected sex all the time...not just on this fourm but i see it on others. its like no1s worried about stds anymore or unwanted pregnancys with someone they met last night or anything.

come on poeple condoms!

[heatherlynn22]

i agree with the ladies the only way to be 100% is to get a dna test after the babies born. even though they didn't ejaculate inside of you, you still have to worry about the pre-ejaculate. it does still contain sperm which can get you pregnant and the guy releases that throughout the entire time.

[peachy2008]

Oh and to the original poster, it really is hard to tell. In all cases even with all the speculation and weighing up of situations a paternity test is the only sure fire way to know so I suggest try and relax and get a test when your bub is born. ALL THE BEST :)

[jesslee83]

rather than "beat" the OP....say this....

babe, you're days are so close, you need a dna test...furthermore, you should ALWAYS protect yourself through the ENTIRE act of sex, to prevent std's and unwanted(well, future), pregnancies.....a condom 1/2 way through doesnt protect you against what i call the "wet" std's--BV, clap, etc--

[jasmin_mom]

well im kinda in your same boat....but mine was at least 6 days apart....and one was my boyfriend at the time then we broke up and my sons dad and me met up and we were both drunk....but i got faternal twins out of it....and one looks just like my sons dad just lighter and she has my original light hair color...and the other looks just like my ex when they were born.....so its hard for me...but i think the only thing is a paternity test..but now my kids look more like my ex instead of my sons dad....so i hope everything goes well

[Kim1989]

why would you have sex with two people three days apart and have them not use a condom!?!?!

ok one guy put on a condom half way thru but still.... STDS, not knowing who got you pregnant!

really its too hard to tell looks like your gonn have to get a paternity test. either way its a guess and you have to get one