Please help!!!’

[Macki333]

Hi ladies
Please help me, my baby is born already, he’s 14 months.
This is my story. I had sex with guy #1 on June 14, 2021 (no protection did not finish). Had sex with guy #2 on June 15, 2021 and on (no protection did finish). I took a plan b on June 17, 2021 just to be safe. On June 25th/26th I think I had a period, that did last what I think a normal period lasts, it wasn’t that heavy but I was not spotting it was a light period, which I’m assuming that the plan b messed with my period. The last two weeks of July of 2021 I don’t remember a specific date I started spotting, sore boobs and was very sensitive to smell. I had no period in July. On August 13th, 2021 I got my first positive pregnancy test. On August 16th, 2021 I had an ultrasound I was measuring 5w 6d. On August 16th, 2021 I was 7w 3d. Which my due date was based on the second ultrasound which it put me on April 11, 2022. And based on my LMP I was due on April 2nd, 2022, so my OB went with the ultrasound. I was always measuring on time in my 2nd and 3rd trimester ultrasounds. I ended up with preeclampsia at 36 weeks so I had my baby at 37weeks, on March 21st, 2022. My son looks like me and guy #2. My mind was at ease because the dates of the ultrasounds did not match to guy #1, but for some reason I’ve been overthinking. Please help, I don’t know I should do a DNA test

[ppowb]

Annie is right. That was a real period at the end of June and you got pregnant from continuing sex with Guy B in July

[Macki333]

You think I’m ok then? I’m with guy #2 and I want guy #2 to be the father, it’s just that we weren’t together when I messed with guy #1

[AnnieBrooke]

Please clarify this part: "On August 16th, 2021 I had an ultrasound I was measuring 5w 6d. On August 16th, 2021 I was 7w 3d."  

[AnnieBrooke]

Also, when in July did you have sex? The June dates you have mentioned are all too early for your due date.

[Macki333]

Hi! I’m so sorry!
On August 16th I was measuring 5w 6d and I meant to type August 26th I was measuring 7w 3d!
I had sex with guy #2 the whole month of July, im concerned that the sex from June 16th with guy #1 lead to my pregnancy

[AnnieBrooke]

The mid-June activity was a month too early to affect anything.

When overthinking, how do you account for the fact that if the sex on June 15 had led to the pregnancy, you would have had the baby (at full term) on March 7? That has nothing to do with ultrasounds, the baby would have been at 40 weeks gestation, and you would have gone into labor.

[Macki333]

I know I might sound dumb, but you don’t think it’s a possibility at all?? My mind is playing tricks with me, I really hate it.
But then I also think what if it took a long time to implant and the blood I had on June 26th wasn’t a period? My period before June it was on May 28th, 2021 but that would still put like 2 months before my due date

[AnnieBrooke]

The embryo begins to grow the day the sperm meets egg, it doesn't just sit, the cells divide and divide again and divide again and grow at a tremendous rate. Are you thinking the embryo could sit in suspended animation for a long time without the cells dividing? An embryo with cells not dividing has stopped being alive.

[Macki333]

You’re right about that, maybe I just feel guilty for messing with guy #1, the mind is very powerful when knowing you did something wrong. The science adds up honestly, bc of the first two ultrasounds that I had it was putting me on April due dates even on 2/3rd trimester ultrasounds it was putting me on April dates, and July conception dates, which I really trust the first ultrasounds since they say they are the most accurate. Im having baby #2 with guy #2 and I feel more comfortable with this pregnancy knowing that this is his baby, but the guilt with baby #1 is still eating me up. I’m 100% positive the bleeding I had in June was a period but I think I just might to do a DNA test just to prove myself wrong at this point

[AnnieBrooke]

There is a reason to do a DNA test, but it has nothing to do with a question about who could be the father. Your child has rights to his father, legal rights to support (at the very least). And if a couple isn't married, in the early days when things are still fun and exciting, Mom, Dad and the baby should all go to a lab officially sanctioned to do DNA testing for legal purposes, and get swabbed. That way, the dad being the father will be in the baby's legal records.  You don't want to have some problem down the line and try to get the legal proof then. (I'm not just talking about child support -- one woman wrote in because the guy died, and the mom of another of his babies was trying to claim her child was the only child of the guy.) So, get your legal ducks in a row and go together and do a test, witness the guy handing over the swab to the lab tech and walk out with your head held high. If you aren't married you have no claim on the man, but your child certainly does.