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Hello. Im 14 weeks & 5 days. This is embarrassing to put on here but I really need help. Me & my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we were going through a lot this year, he cheated on me. So I cheated on him once with a guy I knew & I know this is no reason to sleep with someone else but it was just a lot & I was so angry. Anyways, I had sex with guy #2 on july 1st just once. But I was having sex with my boyfriend before that day & after that day unprotected each time. Now I know it only takes once to get pregnant but I only had sex with him once & I was always having sex with my boyfriend before that day & after. also i went to a clinic on september 18 i was told i was 9 weeks & 1 day. When i went to my doctor about 3 weeks after i was told i was 12 weeks exactly. I was thinking I was 15 weeks already until I counted the days since September 18 & it came up I was 14 weeks & 5 days. what do you guys think? Any thoughts help thanks.
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sani, I am all for transparency in relationships, but if babyloveee has decided she will never cheat again, it is possible that telling this will do more harm than good. She does not sound like she got pregnant anywhere near the time she had sex with the wrong guy. Of course, if she thinks this might happen again, or if the relationship is rocky anyway, there is no harm in putting it all on the table when discussing their relationship on the whole. But there is no reason to confess out of a fear that the wrong guy is the father, because she got pregnant a month after the cheating incident. In other words, the wrong guy is not the father. In her shoes, I'd address the issue of them getting mad at each other and him cheating, and possibly (if the relationship is strong) her cheating in retaliation, but I wouldn't even open the can of worms at all if she thinks both his bad behavior and hers are entirely a thing of the past.
Hmmmmmmm... dear now u jst wait for dna test..may everything will b good for u. N u should hv to tell ur bf abt the whole story i m sure if hez loyal he will understand u n hold you. In this stage u need joy not tension.. stay blessed n always be carefull for whole life critical satuayions like this.
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You had sex with two guys in close succession in early July. But although this is preying on your mind, you would not have gotten pregnant then, it is too far back. Look at a calendar, and begin at September 18 and count back 9 weeks and 1 day. Nothing you can do will stretch things back all the way to July 1. In fact, given the way medical people count pregnancy, it sounds like you conceived around July 30. Possibly that is what the "really light blood" was around July 28.
I went to planned parenthood to find out if I was pregnant. They did the ultra sound where it is inserted in the vagina & she told me I am 9 weeks & 1 day exactly thats all she told me. And I meant I had sex with guy #2 on july 1st.
FYI, sperm can live in the vagina for up to 5 days... this is way to close to calculate and you won't be 100% sure until you have a DNA test.
I was in a relationship like this a long time ago. Where he cheated on me and I cheated on him. I actually told him since he did it to me, that I'll do it to him. I didn't end up pregnant cause I was on birth control at the time. But after that, the cheating stopped. So if he cheated on you and you did it right back i don't see why he wouldn't forgive you, he messed up first.
Two wrongs don't make a right. But it is done already. I say talk about it, and let him know if he doesn't know already, and get that DNA test done when the baby arrives.
I was in a relationship like this a long time ago. Where he cheated on me and I cheated on him. I actually told him since he did it to me, that I'll do it to him. I didn't end up pregnant cause I was on birth control at the time. But after that, the cheating stopped. So if he cheated on you and you did it right back i don't see why he wouldn't forgive you, he messed up first.
Two wrongs don't make a right. But it is done already. I say talk about it, and let him know if he doesn't know already, and get that DNA test done when the baby arrives.
I am in the same position as you. Dont worry about it. Once the baby comes do a DNA test.I was stressing really bad but i just told myself not to because my baby is a blessing and im not going to be with either one. And not only that but my first childs dad is hispanic and the 2nd guy is black. For me its still going to be hard because black babies dont have a color till their a little older. But goodluck.
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If you were told 9 weeks and 1 day on September 18, that says you conceived at the end of July, not the 1st of July. Did you have an ultrasound? Was this estimate of 9w1d from the measurements of the embryo?
im going thru the same thing honey it is kinda embarrassing but just make sure that both guys know the situation so there are no surprises when baby comes i told my bf that there is a fifty fifty chance the other dude i lost contact with but just pray about itmama god makes things happen for a reason....good luck sweetie hope everyrhing turns out right for you
They have online conception calculators and some are pretty right on. Check it out! It'll ask for last day of menstrual cycle... Hope it helps! Good luck sweetie.
You are gonna have to wait for a DNA test my opinion tho more likely your boyfriends but you never know
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