I have a sister who seems to meet multiple descriptions I have read on personality disorders.
History. She found my mother dead from a suicidal gunshot at the age of 8. She was in shock for a year and blamed my father for her suicide. She has spent much of her life alone or in stormy relationships that ended dramatically.
She exhibits these following Borderline Personality traits. Her relationships with others are intense but stormy and unstable with marked shifts of feelings and difficulties in maintaining intimate, close connections. She constantly manipulates family and friends and often has difficulty with trusting anyone. She is also emotionaly instabile with frequent shifts to an empty lonely depression or to irritability and anxiety. She often shows inappropriate, intense anger with tantrums, constant brooding and resentment. There are also identity disturbances with confusion and uncertainty about goals, career choices, friendships.
She also exhibits Paranoid Personality traits. She prefers to be by herself. She distrusts everyone and is constantly suspicious that people are out to get her personally or professionally. She avoids or destroys relationships and frequently interprets hidden and hostile meanings or intentions into the actions of others. She is quick to challenge loyalties of loved ones and what few friends she has, and is often cold and distant. She constantly shifts blame to others and carries long grudges or is completely unforgiving.
I am hoping you can provide me with some insight about her condition or help me to cope with her.