Depressed :L Don't know what to do..

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Well, I've been depressed for a very long time. I'm going through troubles with my mom and dad, but my dad is currently not living with us and I haven't seen him for a while, I don't mean to brag but I know I'm not the only one with problems, I just miss having a full family and I know my dad doesn't love me enough to do that since he's been giving us trouble..  I've been through alot, moving schools and to different houses leaving people and pets behind, refuges etc..I've been picked on ever since I could remember, pushed around like i'm dirt, teased like I have no feelings, it seems wherever I go bad luck follows. I hate school and I hate people, I don't like working and school feels like its a prison.I've gotten used to animals because I know that they can't judge me and that they love me for me, I've grown attached and my mum always calls me different and that I'm weird.. It's really weird because every time I end up having an animal or something that I love ends up disappearing completely! I keep them no longer than half a year( like only 4-5 months max..), and I get extremely upset. Recently my dog was stolen from me without me knowing until I got home from school, I loved him very much and I'm trying so hard to find him. But people keep putting me down, telling me he'll never be found. Its hard to deal with everything and I'm suffering every single day, I'm scared to share my story with others, but I actually did it online, I guess that's okay? I need some advice please.

mammo · Accepted Answer

First of all, we're glad you're here and felt comfortable in sharing your story with us.  We've all had issues of our own, so know you're not alone, will not be judged, we care and understand. I do think your dad loves you, he may not be doing what he needs to in order to show this, but he does. It sounds like a very difficult situation and you're caught in the middle of it all.  Many kids are living in broken homes, but know that it is no reflection on you. Obviously your parents have problems that cannot be resolved, but you can still have your dad and mom, just not in the same house. I know at your age it's difficult to understand that as parents and adults we make mistakes too, and often it results in the children being hurt.  Your dad has some issues he needs to work thru and then maybe the two of you can have a wonderful relationship.  Your mom is wrong in calling you names, and it sounds like she has her own demons to deal with.  But still you should not be the one she takes her frustrations out on.  People who tease you are just bullys, they never amount to anything, and just turn into adult bullys!  Picking on others makes them feel better about themselves which shows you how messed up they are!  Don't allow people like this to define who and what you are.  You are better than this and them.  I'm an animal lover as well, so I understand how much your pets mean to you.  It's sad that they keep disappearing.  I think you need to seek help with all this.  If you can talk to your mom do it, if not talk to your school counselor, but get help.  Sometimes writing a letter to both your parents makes them see how much you are suffering and how hurt you are.  Even if you copy what you wrote here, they will see the light.  If not, work with your school to get help or a relative. Right now you feel hopeless, but with some help you will learn that you have choices, and getting help now will insure that your future will not be your past, but a brighter, happier place.  Be yourself, be proud of who and what you are!  When people judging you or teasing you see that you are happy with yourself and can take or leave them, they will stop all this.  You only have to please yourself.  Get involved in things you enjoy, look into volunteering at your local animal shelter, offer to dog sit, anything to do with your passions.  Don't shut people out, there are more good than bad, and you will learn this.  Keep a journal of your feelings everyday, it really helps a lot.  I had a lousy childhood as well, but it made me strong and determined to make a better future for myself.  I hope you do the same, because you deserve to have a happy and fulfilling life.  Please keep talking to us, it will help you with all this. Stay strong, and we're always here.  Take care.

Tikaani · Answer

Awwww, thanks to all of you for your helpful advice, I appreciate it and I'm glad that you're all not judging me. I feel at ease knowing that people here are friendly, and nice. 

      It's hard for me at times, sometimes people expect you to be a different person and I pretend to be, just to make friends and actually fit in. It's been a rough road and still is, though I know I'm trying my hardest to be happy, hopefully, one day I will be and all my problems will dissapear. 

Lots of Love :)
Dakota.

healthquest10 · Answer

You seem like a lovely person, in difficult circumstances. Although it is very difficult, try to remember that what people say and do towards you does not define who you are! Even your parents!

nav900 · Answer

Dont be dipressed. It's normal if u love a thing or animals very deeply ,and get dippressed if its out of our hand.So make good books as ur friend . Knowldge cannot be stolen and also books. And dont get into things very very deeply. Your life time only gets wasted in thinking of thse above u have mentioned. Surf in internet ,browse good things .ok.

thanks

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