No, this is not punishment. People go on to have healthy pregnancies following abortions all the time. The ectopic thing just happens sometimes. Miscarriages often are caused by a chromosomal issues with the child. Pregnancy will happen eventually. Do not lose heart! I would not tell your family about the next pregnancy until you are out of the first trimester if they are being so unsupportive when you have a miscarriage.
Hello and welcome!
I'm sorry you've been through so much!
I agree completely with the above reply. This isn't "punishment" in any way. If you're a believer in God, you surely understand that he is not a vengeful God, he is forgiving. That's not even an option that God is taking away your unborn children as "revenge".
Pregnancy loss certainly is VERY hard to deal with. I myself had a late term miscarriage at 19 weeks, it was devastating. As for your past history and your abortion, that's the decision you made at the time, because it was right for you considering the situation. Everyone has an opinion of course and everyone thinks THEIR opinion is the only one that matters. That's one topic that's NEVER good to get into with others, because it's very controversial, and most people are very passionate about their positions on termination.
I would make it very clear to your family that the topic of your abortion is not open for discussion ANY more, in ANY way, it's frankly none of anyone's business, and if people dare throw your history in your face during a very difficult time like a pregnancy loss, I would recommend very calmly, yet very sternly express that that is completely unacceptable, and you won't tolerate it one bit. Don't let people treat you like that. That should have never been allowed to happen. I think it's unconscionable that someone would say that to you. I know I wouldn't put up with that for a millisecond.
And just an FYI, any people who come into your life that don't know your past don't need all the intimate details. Don't ever feel that you have to share that with people, it's YOUR business, and your business ALONE.
Pregnancy loss is difficult, and you've suffered more than one, so it's only natural that you would feel sad. Have you ever sought any kind of therapy to help you deal with the assault? Was the perpetrator prosecuted? If you feel you're still struggling with the events of the past, then please seek out some help for yourself. A therapist will help you work through both your past issues and the recent ones.
Very best to you, I hope that very soon you have a healthy and happy pregnancy! It will happen!