Eating a lot!!!!

[mirna2008]

Hello everyone I'm 19 years old and I have a 4 year old girl and a 3 month baby that I'm breast feeding.... When I was 8 months pregnant I started feeling alone. I started eating more than usual. At first I thought it was due to the pregnancy. But now his about to be 4 months and I'm getting worst. Everytime I'm feeling sad or down or just had an argument with my husband I get this anxity and can't control my self and start eating. And I mean eating a lot. Just last Friday I bought two pizzas and I ate one whole pizza and like four slizes from  the other box. Before I was even pregnant with my boy I remember I couldn't eat more than 4.... and then after eating so much I feel so guilty and don't want to eat at all... and after a day of only eating fruit water or even nothing I do the same thing.

What is this called? If their is even a word for... I've been feeling so fat, ugly, and I just hate my body.... what can I do to get out of this problem?  And should I just stop feeding my child and just give him formula???? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

[mamajujubee]

Hi Mirna, I would suggest you continue to breastfeed your baby and speak to a doctor as the other posters have mentioned.  My appetite was HUGE when I was nursing my kids, it was even bigger than it was when I was pregnant.  You need lots of calories to maintain your milk supply.  I lost a lot of weight when I nursed, it took a few months but I ended up weighing less than I did before I became pregnant.  And yes, there were days I could eat a whole pizza!!!  Don't worry, you are not alone!  Good luck.

[mirna2008]

Thank you so much... and I will. I have an appoiment tomorrow morning and I'll let my Dr. know what I'm going through. Thank you again.:)

[specialmom]

Oh goodness.  I'm sure sorry to hear this.  I really want you to find a way to connect with other moms.  Even if you find a MOPS meeting, you may be able to find someone to pick you up if you tell them you can't drive and NEED to get out.  You need some support around you sweetie.  I'm glad your partner is supporting you and working hard but you are probably a bit lonely.  Again, even strapping one into a front pack and the other into a stroller or both in a stroller or one in a stroller while the other walks beside you and going for a walk is good.  Try to do more of that.

I feel for you.  Start making connections wherever you can.  

And yes, talk to your doctor to be evaluated and treated if necessary.  Hang in there.  Keep in touch, okay?

[mirna2008]

Thank you for answering my question and I will let the Dr. know what I'm going through.... and to answer your question, yes,I am always at home 24/7 my girl goes to school but I never get out. I just move to a new town and don't really know much people and the people I know are always working and my husband works 7 days a week until 6 pm. And we only go out two times a week and that's only to go get the food for US and stuff  the house.... that's been my life for the past year and about 6 months. And I don't even have a car.... :( I'm just so depresse.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome to the forum.  I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time!  So many do use food in the way you describe to self medicate if you will.  

In all honesty, I'd talk to your doctor---  even your ob/gyn about post partum depression.  This is treatable dear.  So please open up to your doctor about it.  

You are a young mom of two young kids.  That's really hard.  It is common to feel a little isolated with young kids.  Do you stay at home with them?  One thing you can also do is start to connect with others that have young kids.  There are moms groups and play groups that you can join.  Look online for your area, go to places such as the YMCA/YWCA, etc. and look for this type of thing.  Also, there is a group called "MOPS" (mothers of preschoolers) that is usually run through a church but you don't have to be religious to attend.  There they provide child care on site and you get to sit with other moms and visit, have speakers talking about things related to parenting and just lady stuff, etc.  Look for other moms to connect with!!

Also, it might help to put the baby in a front pack and th e 4 year old in a stroller and go for a walk.  Just get out of the house!  If you do have a Y by you, they have exercise classes and you could put your kiddos in the child watch and do a 45 minute class.  

Again, so sorry you are going through a rough time and hope it gets better really soon!