I hate my life.

[awholelottalumps]

I'm a 35 year old single male who has been working on third shift since 2005.Well I don't have any kind of a social life due to my odd hours I work which are 10 pm to 7 am five days a week and I usually don't wake up until 5 pm.I feel like my needs aren't being met as all I seem to be doing is working and sleeping which is making me very depressed.On the two days I have off I usually feel like **** and by the time I feel better it's off to work again.I'm a overnight stocker which can be difficult at times.I feel like I'm trapped and I don't know what fun is anymore.I hate working third shift,but where I live it's seems to be the only job I could find that paid decent since third shift pays more,but I feel like I'm sacrificing my happiness just to make money.I'm down most of time because I really feel isolated from everything.I also live with my brother who has a car as I don't drive.I would like a car myself one day,but it's very expensive these days and I only have $600 for myself after I pay for rent,electric bill,direct tv bill,phone bill,and food.I'm dependent on my brother giving me rides to work and to the store.I want to be an independent person and it depresses me that I depend on him so much.Now maybe you see why I feel trapped as I work third to make extra money to get by,but still don't feel like it's enough.I'm just tired of feeling the way I do mostly due to working on third and my job as well,but third shift is awful.I have turned into a hermit as I feel crappy when I'm off work and just stay home until I go back to work to start the whole process over again.My mom isn't getting any younger and I feel sad because I don't see her often or my other family members hardly.Money is a big issue as I stated before and I feel like it's going to get worse before it gets better.I'm so bored of all this and I  just feel like life is passing me by and I don't know what to do about it.I'm very frustrated and any help on my situation would be greatly appreciated.

[bernie40]

I have to say I agree with rliz.  I took stock of my own life not very long ago.  I realised that the pressures of earning money were impacting on my mental health.  I know we need money in order to live, I am not that naive!!  However, money is not the be all and end all of life.  By changing your working pattern you could begin to have a social life.  We only live on this earth once, don't waste it.

It can be hard to change, its a bit scary, but I am sure that you will feel better for it.

A close friend of mine has been working 3 jobs, she was exhausted and she was still fretting about money.  She felt trapped.  However, when she took a step back and had a good look at what she was doing she realised it couldn't go on.  She is now back to one job and within a couple of weeks she is already feeling more positive.

All the best

[Fergman]

I don't know how you do it.  I know there are thousands of people working the 3rd shift.  It has to be very difficult.  These are difficult economic times.  It's not going to be easy to find a job that meets your basic needs, but you've got to include this quality each one of us possess - faith.  It sounds like a geographical move might not be a bad idea.  Research some job opportunities in areas you might like to live in.  Invest your time, make some calls, make some email contacts, get your resume done by a professional.

You're a single 35 year old man.  All you need is a bed, refridgerator, toilet, remote and tv.  I made a geographical when I was 21 because all my friends were shooting heroin.  I came to Florida on a job promise.  It was the absolute best move I've ever made.

[portmans888]

i am agree with  fergman,this are some tips for you,hope it will help you

1.Do research some job opportunities in areas you might like to live in,change job if its necessary (more payment perhaps)

2.Save money,get a driver licence,saved money to buy a 2nd hand car,
  once you get a car,u feel more freedom to go everywhere,it will make you happy in a   way

3.Do make friendster or facebook.ITS FREE.u will make so much friends there,perhaps you can make some friends that lived in your area through friendster or facebook.what you do is just click on www.friendster.com or www.facebook.com and sign up

4.Change your look.buy shaver,get a new hair cut,buy some new clothing thats in style these days.it doesnt have to be expensive,there are some cheap clothes out there,
by changing your look,hair cut,new clothing you will fell that you are a new person

5.go out there,meet people do something that will make you happy,...?/sport perhaps,..??

6.always put some money aside,even $50 a week,in a year u can saved around $2600,
go for holiday,BALI it a cheap option perhaps,

LIFE IS ABOUT CHOICES,good luck,..