you take up for someone else's hurt and your the one blamed!!!!!!

[bonster4097]

example:  You say something you mean well, and joyfully! there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you said, it was just an idea that's all. Then someone takes that good feeling you have, that good idea you have, and simply that is all it was and they step on you like a lit cigarette and grind you in the ground, AND I AM NOT  supposed to take up for the one getting beat up! well, I'm not going to change that, I tried to be nice and tell that person, it was no more than a simple suggestion, I GUESS i could have quit that conversation there and realize that you can't put something into a CLOSED CONTAINER, but i guess i was dumb and had to speak my peace. Anyway, I got the blame for this person's meaness, because i didn't let her get away with it! she obviously was pampered enough, and yes I am letting this eat at me, it angers me so much, that people get away with this crud, and when I feel I am doing the hearfelt right thing the blame ends up turning on me! GO FIGURE , i don't take back what I said, mean people do s....ck, they do still joy from others, and guess what, sometimes they need to know they are wrong even if it means hurting their feelings!!!! as forresst gump would say " and that's all I got to say about that" ... woo weeeee now watch all the meanies come out and bite me now, like a bunch of piranahs and sharks on a feeding frenzy

[lonewolf07]

Seeing how some folks behave (including myself) is the reason I have dogs  = )

I just wrote a journal entry "venting" - better than taking it out on someone else.

[bonster4097]

Everything is cool at this time.  I could have ignored the whole thing, but I get sick of innocent people being attacked in my lifetime and never standing up for them. This girl was sarcastic and rude, and she did not think and i possibly think she did not even care who's feelings could get hurt. My heart went out to the other person, when the supposedly unknowingly harrassement continued, I put my two cents in HARSHLY.  Now I ended up hurting the rude one's and the rude one's friend's feelings and they all got mad at me. My point is, it took me hurting someone else's feelings to make them realize (maybe they still don't realize) what pain she had caused. Just like you gotta discipline a child after the 3 or 4 the time you ask them kindly and they don't you finaly have to apply what's in the best interest for that child even if that child does not like it!

Anyway thanks for your time and support. I am also trying to get help with anger issues, menopause does not help! hee hee.  thanks bonnie

[lonewolf07]

Just for clarification - when I responded to this post it was to "share" my opinion about expressing anger, not to give advice or say who is right or wrong.  If that's how it came across I'm really sorry = (

I don't THINK I gave any advice or attacked anyone; I hope not.

[ParamedFlorena]

It is a lot to consider when replying to someone in here. The only thing known is what is in the post. A lot of personal opinions are shared and advice is given - some are good and some are not quite as good. I'm sorry it is tough for you! If you feel attacked by someone, I think I'd suggest to give clues to MH itself? You do also have an option to block members. It is a big forum and just like when we socialize in the offline life, we pick and choose even here.

A tiny reminder about the disclaimer MH has: Member Comments are provided by individuals and reflect their personal opinions only. Under NO circumstances should you act on any advice or opinion posted in this forum.

If you want to PM me, please do so.

No one can know the full situation around a matter without having lived it.

Florena

[lonewolf07]

I don't know what happened and that's fine - it's none of my business and I'm not going to trash you either.  IMHO writing and posting about your anger is a good thing - you aren't denying or suppressing your anger.  Writing about it is better than kicking the dog or smacking people around.

There have been many, many times that I've been in your position and felt the same way.  It's beyond hurtful.

Like F. Gump might have said, "Life/MH is like a box of chocolates ..."

I hope the hurt passes; our lives are too short for hurt, pain, meanness and cruelty.

Hugs to you

wolf