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Love depression
I am Christina and I am in love with my best friend 2 years now. I am a deeply depressive person with many problems but this situation literally leads me to despair. He can not see me as I see him because he has found the love of his life already and is not me of course. The worse is that we are friends on line and I ended up loving him more than my family. I am generally a tender person and I bond with people easily.
I do not know how to treat him and myself any more...
It might seem dummy for many of you that you have more serious problems but this situation effects my whole life.
I do not know how to treat him and myself any more...
It might seem dummy for many of you that you have more serious problems but this situation effects my whole life.
Your reply makes so much sense.
I am a logical person on general but I let my feelings rule me.
I dont know if I am obsessed with him but something inside me keeps telling me that what I feel and how I think is not normal and is not me.
His all life is a lie so I cant even seriously depend on him.
So I guess it is a bit obsessive.
Maybe I need to depend on someone so much that I dont see how wrong I am.
An ex of mine told me that I search people that need help because I am help-addicted.
I dont know if that is a real term but describes me...
I am a logical person on general but I let my feelings rule me.
I dont know if I am obsessed with him but something inside me keeps telling me that what I feel and how I think is not normal and is not me.
His all life is a lie so I cant even seriously depend on him.
So I guess it is a bit obsessive.
Maybe I need to depend on someone so much that I dont see how wrong I am.
An ex of mine told me that I search people that need help because I am help-addicted.
I dont know if that is a real term but describes me...
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It's not dumb. It actually makes a lot of sense. I have been there before and the last time was just a couple of months ago. I have damaged a lot of my friendships by obsessing about this idea of what it would be like to be with that person. You have to let it go. I know I make that sound easy when it actually harder than that. I also imagine that you are not going to do that but in the end if you can just be friends with him, you will not be setting yourself up for heartbreak.
I believe you are a tender person. I am too. If the guy is with the love of his life then what would that make you if he was to be with you? Would you be the second best? You have to wait for the person to come a long that would see you as the love of his life. If the guy finds his self single some day and you two decide to get in a mutually beneficial interdependent relationship then you will find yourself happier than if you two started a relationship right now while you are obsessing and making him out to be more than he is. I am sure he is a great guy and if God wants you two to be together it will happen. But if you want to be happy, don't assume that anyone person can do it for you. You are in for a world of hurt if you think that a man is going to make you happy. You are the only person that can make yourself happy. If you just need a friend keep coming back here and you will likely find one.
I wish you the best of luck,
Larry