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Someone please help me overcome these thoughts....
I'm a seventeen year old girl and I have a fear of getting older. I'm afraid of turning age 50-80. I'm afraid of getting wrinkles and sagging skin. I know there are ways of preventing this, but the things is I truly hope I don't have that "young" mentality anymore. The mentality of wanting to feel sexy and wanting to be attractive. I really don't want to be that way at that age. I would rather feel beautiful for what I've experienced in my life and who I am as a person. Will my mentality change as I get older? Will I grow out of the things that make me happy as a younger person, like having a good self-esteem over silly things? Honestly, I hope my mentality will change. But I just don't know and I'm scared...
Oh I was 17 once, now I am old with saggy skin and wrinkles - oh dear what am I to do. Yes I am old, and unfortunately that is where we all end up. It is not the end of the world you know.
My hair is going grey, everything in my body is getting older, but my mind isn't. As ageing comes gradually, we go along with it.
Don't worry yourself about getting old. You have a lot of living to do before you reach my grand old age of 72. I don't feel a worthless human being because I am old.
I've had my moments. I've had my romances. I have raised children and seen them thrive, and I have 4 grandchildren whom I love to bits.
Life is a road and we adjust to each stage as we get older. I know when I was your age 70s seemed a long way away, and very old. But here I am, having trod lifes path, fighting depression for the last 20 years. You cannot stop yourself ageing. It happens.
Don't worry about all that now. Pleasd live in the present and enjoy every moment. Happiness is not confined to the young.
Don't be scared of ageing, it is such a long way off for you.
My hair is going grey, everything in my body is getting older, but my mind isn't. As ageing comes gradually, we go along with it.
Don't worry yourself about getting old. You have a lot of living to do before you reach my grand old age of 72. I don't feel a worthless human being because I am old.
I've had my moments. I've had my romances. I have raised children and seen them thrive, and I have 4 grandchildren whom I love to bits.
Life is a road and we adjust to each stage as we get older. I know when I was your age 70s seemed a long way away, and very old. But here I am, having trod lifes path, fighting depression for the last 20 years. You cannot stop yourself ageing. It happens.
Don't worry about all that now. Pleasd live in the present and enjoy every moment. Happiness is not confined to the young.
Don't be scared of ageing, it is such a long way off for you.
Sweetheart, seventeen is a bit young to have age anxiety. You might want to speak with a therapist to see how you gained these fears (is someone modeling these fears?) A few days before my 40th birthday, my partner came home and I had big ole' crocodile tears in my eyes. "What is wrong, Honey?" she says... "I am gonna' be 40." was my big trauma. Well I just turned 60 and I am doing fine with it. I keep waiting for that day when I am going to feel like a "grown-up". Well that just didn't happen. Live life every day. Make a bucket list and check off your dreams. Pay attention to the world around you. Laugh every day and better yet - make someone else laugh. Do something to make the world a better place. It is true, I am not the beauty I was at 17, but I look pretty good... I do not have wrinkles or gray hair - thanks to my fabulous hairdresser.
Try to take things a bit less seriously. Time passes, life happens ... you can determine your reaction to that life. And, seriously, see a professionally to try to figure out where all of this fear is coming from and nip it in the bud....
Try to take things a bit less seriously. Time passes, life happens ... you can determine your reaction to that life. And, seriously, see a professionally to try to figure out where all of this fear is coming from and nip it in the bud....
Hello and welcome!
What you fear and think about is very normal. I think we all felt like that at your age, and yes, as you get older, your thinking will change. You'll begin to see that no matter HOW many years go by, and no matter how you may look, you will always feel like the same person. Vanity will not be as important to you as it is now. Some people are more concerned about appearances than others, but at your age, it IS a hard idea to wrap your brain around, getting older.
I'm 41, and I feel no differently inside than I did in my early 20's. Time hasn't been overly kind to me in some respects, and yes, sometimes, that's a bit tough to deal with. But, as you age, other things will become more important. And, hey, some people maintain their youthful looks wonderfully. Taking good care of yourself is a great way to accomplish that..eating well, being active, staying away from drugs, alcohol, smoking.
Try not to focus too much on this stuff, enjoy your youth...you have a LONG way to go. They say 40 is the new 20. Well, I think 40-something people say that...lol...but in all seriousness, it's true. With people living longer, medical advances, a woman in her 40's isn't like a woman in her 40's 100 years ago. Women are still having children in their 40's!
Trust me, you will feel differently when you get there. I still cannot believe I'm 41, but I've come to realize that age is just a number. I try to live in the day, enjoying life in the moment. I may be a little thicker around the middle, may have a few wrinkles, but I'm still the same person I've always been.
Hope that helps...we're here for you if you need to talk!
What you fear and think about is very normal. I think we all felt like that at your age, and yes, as you get older, your thinking will change. You'll begin to see that no matter HOW many years go by, and no matter how you may look, you will always feel like the same person. Vanity will not be as important to you as it is now. Some people are more concerned about appearances than others, but at your age, it IS a hard idea to wrap your brain around, getting older.
I'm 41, and I feel no differently inside than I did in my early 20's. Time hasn't been overly kind to me in some respects, and yes, sometimes, that's a bit tough to deal with. But, as you age, other things will become more important. And, hey, some people maintain their youthful looks wonderfully. Taking good care of yourself is a great way to accomplish that..eating well, being active, staying away from drugs, alcohol, smoking.
Try not to focus too much on this stuff, enjoy your youth...you have a LONG way to go. They say 40 is the new 20. Well, I think 40-something people say that...lol...but in all seriousness, it's true. With people living longer, medical advances, a woman in her 40's isn't like a woman in her 40's 100 years ago. Women are still having children in their 40's!
Trust me, you will feel differently when you get there. I still cannot believe I'm 41, but I've come to realize that age is just a number. I try to live in the day, enjoying life in the moment. I may be a little thicker around the middle, may have a few wrinkles, but I'm still the same person I've always been.
Hope that helps...we're here for you if you need to talk!
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