Something happened that is really freaking me out, and I don't know how to handle the issue, what to say, what to do. My mom has graves disease (thyroid disorder) and had her thyroid removed with radiation and now has to take a pill every day to maintain proper thyroid function. My dad had to go out of town for a week and left my mom at home alone. She's only 64, so that's not out of the normal. It's not like she's in her 90s and can't take care of herself, except maybe she can't take care of herself sometimes which we found out. He came back to find her pretty lethargic, not really talking, and not eating/drinking or anything. He took her to the ER. He also took her medication bottles with him. My dad noticed that it looked like she hadn't been taken her medications, any of them including her thryoid medications for at least a week, possibly a little longer. And the blood tests the hospital is running are confirming that. My mom also developed walking pnemonia and some sort of intestinal infection, so they are keeping her admitted in the hospital to get her thyroid back to normal function, help her recooperate from the pnemonia and other infection, and also for a psychiatric evaluation.
Did my mom stop taking the medication because she was depressed and was suicidal or did she stop taking the medication because she wasn't feeling well? And even if she didn't feel well, why would she stop taking a medication for so long if she knows she needs it to stay alive? I mean, I've stopped taking my antidepressant meds before, thinking i could battle stuff on my own, but that wouldn't kill me. Thyroid medications stuff is serious and can kill her if she doesn't take it. I'm just so confused.
I battle depression off and on myself, and so do a couple of my siblings. One of my great-grandfathers was institutionalized for many months for depression. So, it's a really genetic thing. And although I battle depression myself, everyone has it in their own way.
So, what do I say to my mom? Do I confront her on this after she gets out of the hospital? Or is it something my dad needs to confront her on? And what if he won't confront her on this issue? I don't live near my parents and I recently just saw them, and at the moment I can't afford a trip out to see them because we are broke and in debt after a $7000 furnace and AC and water heater (they all broke at the same time) and many medical bills and car repairs over the past several months. (we really have had some bad luck financially this year). I really want to go visit, but I can't. And driving 16 hours with a 2 year old in the car? Not going to happen. And I don't know what I can say on a telephone. What is okay to say? What do I say? I don't want my mom to shut down more and not talk to me if she gets upset at me, but I don't want to just ignore things either.