Feeling depressed with infertility stress

[medi28]

I just heard that my sister in law is pregnant again with in 2 months of trying. I want to be happy for them but it is bugging me that i am not yet preggo even after more than year of trying and 1 IVF. It breaks my heart. I dont know what to do. I know so many of them hv gotten pregnant after lot of time but I dont know how long I should wait. This wait is the worst wait in life. My husband is also acting wierd today after hearing the news or may be I am feeling like he is weird. Just wanted to share this with you guys.

[BabiesInHeaven]

It's not easy, that's for sure.  I feel the same way about a family member that married years after us, yet have 2 kids already (g-d bless them).  It's hard to be the one in the family that (I feel) everyone looks at and points.  DH says that we will enjoy our kids more since we have to work so hard at having kids...I have heard that so many times that I have developed a paranoia, I'm totally anxious all the time, and worst of all, have turned into a recluse who doesn't want to spend any time with them, or anyone else for that matter.  To make matters worse, our marriage is on the rocks due to all the pain and stress infertility (and it's baggage) have brought DH and I.  We are at each other all the time.  I know DH is acting weird because life is weird and out of sync for us.  It's hard for me to give advice as I'm in a similar situation and looking for support myself, but we MUST believe that one of these days will be our day.....  Hang in there and try to remember you are NOT alone...

xoxo

[kreid2]

Try not to stress! That is not good for the tww it canc aide you to m/c if you do get preggo! I understand though. My 21 yr old sister just told my family she is pregnant and d course bc she "forgot" to use a condom. Anyways we have been tryig or coming 3 years now and it's frustrating. I always felt as the oldest daughter I should give my parent the first grandchild. I'm pretty disappointed but keeping my faith. I just got my trigger shot Friday so I've started my tww as well. When do you go for hcg b/w?

[Marceyb]

Hiya just wanted to say chin up babe it's a hard road were on and your day will come. If ivf has thought me is patience!!! It's sooo hard when your on treatment and when it fails if takes three months a time. I had a. m/c in April my baby would have been due yesterday, my brothers wife is due today and my other sister and brother are due in feb!! I'm on the tww and am cramping soo bad right now I just gave to stat positive!!! Good times will come ur way you will see!!! Be grateful for all the baby sitters !!!! Xxxxx

[Maria2707]

I understand what you are going through as I have experienced the same. My Sister in law delivered 3 babies in a span on 7 years. And I had none. We got married 3 months apart same year and had no babies she had three. Went through 2 mc's one with IUI an one with ivf, got pregnant with 2nd ivf and have a DS now. Hang on dear, just try to ignore them. Your time will come and you will have a beautiful baby. You are here with many many women just like you. We know the value of not having a baby easily and we will never take it for granted unlike those who get preg easily and deliver one after another.
Good luck to you.