When is enough.....enough? Please read

[foreverpoppy9]

Hi ladies.
Quick background. I had miscarriage in 2008, had a daughter born in March of 2009, then an ectopic in aug. 2010, and another miscarriage with a suction d/c on April 15th, 2011.  I have PCOS and did clomid several times, last time we added metformin and progesterone supp and still miscarried at9.5wks. The pathology report came back onthe baby and everything look normal on the baby.  So it must be something with me that is also going on. I go in on Friday for my 2 weeks check after the d/c and he will be running some coagulation tests (blood draws) on me.  My grandfather has Factor 5 Leiden which I do not have as I"ve been tested inthe past for it but there are some others he wants to test me for...something like antibody lupus, ect...or something on that order.  

Ok so in my head I've been contemplating whether its worth try again. My husband is fine with only having one child and he's fine with trying again.  I have always wanted 2 children but I do NOT want to go through another miscarriage again :( Somedays I feel selfish for even thinking about trying again and that I should be thankful for our daughter and move on with life. Then I hear others say you are only 27 and you are too young to make that decision.  I kinda hope in my head that these test results show something so it helps me make that decision. B/c if they all come back normal then what do we do? Do we try again and if we conceive it would be a miracle in itself and then will the baby actually survive?  Are there other tests I should be having done? I just don't know what to do...I'm not looking for someone to give me and answer but any stories or advice or thoughts are appreciated. I just wonder when enough is enough for some and how do you come to that decision.  

~One sad mama :(

[babywanted556]

I'm 41 and my son is just turn 9 month old from the fifth IVF.  I failed several IUIs, 3 positive on 5 IVFs but only have him due to MC and etopic.
I really want to try for the second baby but DH does not want to try again because he does not want to share our love to other child.  I'm sad but I have no choice.  Now, I just feel like I should be happy with one rather than none.....due to my age.
good luck.

[Tarobinc]

I am 38 and if this 3rd round of IUI didn't work, I wasn't sure if we would keep going on ttc for our second child based on my age and also if we had in us to keep going. Our next step would have been IVF. So there would have been a lot of soul searching to see if we would press on or not.

There is no reason you couldn't take a break for awhile especially at your age. I didn't concieve my first dd until I was 35 (didn't get married until I was 33). I did have one m/c last year and it is devasting. I only hope I do not have to go through that again.

I think one day you will truely feel in your heart what is the next step for you and your family. Give yourself some time, just try to enjoy where you are right now...have a glass of wine, eat sushi, go on a rolle coaster basically do some things you couldn't do if you were pg. At least that is what I used to do to help me cope when AF would show up.

I hope you find peace soon with whatever path you choose.

[foreverpoppy9]

i pray everyday for our beautiful daughter, we have always called her our "miracle baby" and she truly is more than ever. i send my best wishes to you prayin4amiracle.

anyone else?

[prayin4miracle]

Well.....this is very very sad!!! It is very painful each time you have a miscarriage,but if you can afford the testing, go for it....but if it doesn't happen, be greatful for the one you have. 11 years of trying for me and my husband.... I would be happy with just one!!!

Good luck to you :)