Trying to get pregnant using donor eggs

[Sabrina4Babies]

Hello--I am a 40+ woman trying to get pregnant using donor eggs.  I recently had a fresh 5-day transfer of donor eggs.  Today, I am 7-days past the 5-day transfer.  I have read online that many, many women can tell if they're pregnant or not by now using a home pregnancy test.  Well, I just took a First Response home pregnancy test, and the result was a BFN.  This is my second time using fresh donor eggs.  The first time was a fail.  I am very concerned that this is also a fail, especially since I am experiencing no symptoms (just like the last cycle).  Isn't it true that a BFN at this point is more than likely accurate?  Thank you for any insight!  --Sabrina

[Sabrina4Babies]

Hi SusannaL--I still haven't fallen back to sleep, so please forgive me if my sleep deprivation is making me ask stupid questions.

If Cycle 17 cost $8000, how much did this current cycle, Cycle 18, cost? Also, when is your Beta/blood test?  Please keep me posted on the results of your hpt and beta/blood tests!  (My blood test is next Monday.) I have my fingers crossed for you!

[SusannaL]

Hi Sabrina, I am in Australia so the payment system is a little different and until a few years ago after 2 cycles in a year you got almost 80% back on the other cycles, so it was much better value if you went hell for leather. I felt pregnant for all my cycles, I am really sensitive to the hormones and I had several episodes of hyper stimulation syndrome, so it was all bloating and sore swollen breasts until the negative test came. I have never done a home test before, because although the 2 ww was horrible, I could also believe for a short time I was pregnant before the inevitable negative test result. But I am  thinking of doing one with this cycle, because I just really want to know.  I told my husband that I couldn't give up because it was the only thing that mattered to me, and if I lost hope I wouldn't want to be alive anymore. He accepted then that as long as my specialist thought it was reasonable to continue, I needed to continue. The year I became pregnant with my daughter they changed the rebates and our last cycle cost $8000 and I knew we would not be able to afford another however much I wanted it, so we were truly lucky that she came when she did. The only difference with that cycle was they put back 2 embryos rather than one, but now I've had a pregnancy my specialist won't agree to that again. So, good luck with your husband and with your next cycle if this one doesn't work out.

[Sabrina4Babies]

Hi SusannaL--I've always been pretty embarrassed to admit to doing 7 IVF cycles. I worry that it makes me look like I'm in denial about not being able to get pregnant.  I can't believe you're on your 17th cycle!  Hasn't it been pretty costly for you?  As for your hubby, good job on convincing him to continue on!  My husband would've long left me!  In fact, he's already fuming at me for considering yet another cycle!  Believe it or not, we've gone through some seriously major conversations/fights about these cycles.  Each time, I convince him to go along with the next cycle by promising it would be the last time, whether it works or not.  Well, I've lost all credibility in his eyes now.  

Regarding your cycles, did the one cycle that produced your beautiful 3-year old feel any different than the rest?  Did you have pg symptoms before your beta test?  Did you even use a hpt?  If so, on what day did you test positive?

[Sabrina4Babies]

Well, it's 3:30 in the morning and I can't fall back asleep.  It's amazing how all-consuming this pregnancy thing can be!  Anyway, I just took another hpt and the result at 9dp5dt was a BFN.  Pretty sad.  

MHV--By any chance, do you wear glasses?  I'm only asking because I had a dream that you came to me to offer your support and comfort.  It was very nice.  Oh well, even if you don't wear glasses, I know it was you in my dream.  You're very kind!  :)

[SusannaL]

Hi Sabrina, I had 16 ivf cycles both fresh/ frozen, all my own eggs, over 4 and a half years before I got my beautiful 3 yr old with my 17th cycle. I am currently day 4 post 5 day transfer of my 18th cycle and am also trying not to home test because I know it's probably too early. My husband wanted to stop many times but I talked him around each time- he said it was ok if it was just us, but I said it would never be ok for me. Maybe you've got a way to go, but maybe it's going to be the next cycle, and if that was the case, you could handle one more, right? Good luck....

[Sabrina4Babies]

Oops ... I pressed the wrong button.  

I live in DC.  Where do you live?