we went to the doctor. not very good news. She said it is either a sperm issue or an egg issue no way to tell for sure. recommeded egg , sperm, or embryo donation or adoption. she said she doesn't recommed us trying ivf on our own again. I asked her if it could have been a fluke with none of the egg fertilizing, after a long pause she said yes it could have been a fluke but she doesn't think so. In the car my husband and i talked. He says he still its ready for donation, but would like to try to do ivf again. i guess i can agree with that. I know i'm going to try to pick up overtime to try to save money to try this again.
Assisted hatching wouldn't have helped this time either. We had no fertilization and that was with icsi. We have an appointment monday to discuss things with the doctor.
I completely understand where you are coming from, because when you want to become a mama, it doe snot matter where you baby comes from. Like Heather I was going to suggest ICSI but see that you have tried that already but how about assisted hatching ? Good luck with everything.
Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that. I was going to suggest ICSI, but I see you've already tried that. I know your husband said no to adoption and sperm/egg donor, so this might be out of the question too, but just as an alternative, how about donor embryos? I know that doesn't solve your husband's desire for his own child; but first of all, they're already embryos, so fertilization won't be a problem, plus they're much less costly that doing donor eggs or even just a regular IVF cycle (and both IVF and donor together would be very expensive!). And from what I've understood, they try to match you up with a couple that resembles you and your husband. It's kinda like adopting, but you still get to carry and give birth to the baby. Just something to think about...
We have both male and female factor issues. this was our third attempt at ivf the first two were cancelled due to poor response and low number of follicles. this was the first cycle we did and we used icsi. 4 mature eggs none fertilized. I also understand where my husband is coming from but i think he would love "our" child no matter where it came from. You can learn to love somebody. I'm sorry for your losses. I hope be both are happy at the end.
I know exactly how you are feeling. We've been trying for close to 16 years and after 7 m/c's I spoke to him about adoption. He told me no right away. I even talked about surogate mothers and even then he said nope. He wants his own and even if it is his own he doesn't want anyone else to carry it for us. I can see both sides of this though. I would love a child no matter what we had to do to achieve this however I can understand my husband's side where he wants his own to have that closeness and bond.
Sorry the only advice I have to offer is patience. Not sure how old you are, if you have had any m/c's before or how long you guys have been ttc. Have you did the sperm anaylsis and also used the OPK's to see when you are ovulating?