Unable to pass gas and stool

[BrandyS2023]

Hello there, my name is Brandy, I am 33 F. I have come searching for help as I have nowhere else to go. I have had issues my entire life due to genetics, I unluckily inherited IBS from my mom. I use to just go to the bathroom without problems as a kid, then in my teen years it got difficult if I didn't eat certain foods. Now I cant even pass gas without straining myself, I cant poop without straining regardless of consistency. My mom cant even burp now without a soda and I fear im getting there myself. At this point its hard for me to even pee without straining, and I know thats not good, but I cant get my list of Doctors to look into it. What could possibly be wrong?! Please anyone help me, I cant keep living like this, especially if I want to go back to working. Also, if I ask my husband to give me an enima to help, it feels as though its impossible to get the tip of the bottle in, like I'm being cut into and its a boulder blocking the bottle

[Leebones]

I have a similar issue, I bare down long and hard usually to the point of getting extremely dizzy & almost passing out.
Been resorting to using a “Speculum” to manually stretch my anus.
I am not joking, it has provided short term relief. Also makes inserting the enema tube easier.
I’m starting to wonder if it’s hormone related because I was reading on this site, can’t remember the group tho but will hunt it down, but others had an issue with digestion and hormones.
I know that if I get too late on taking my testosterone shot then I get extremely backed up, my sphincter gets REAL tight, and I have to go thru extreme measures to have a bowel movement(s).
I’ll be seeing my gastro Dr. soon and will try again to get this discussed.
It gets worse if I do a lot of sitting.
I wish u the best