.I'm at a complete loss. The first night I (tried) to have sex with my (now) husband he could not get an errection. We have been together almost 10 years and have battled this issue together. Sometimes he can get an errection but can't maintain it. Sometimes he gets an errection but comes very quickly. Sometimes he can't get one at all. For years I pretended it didn't bother me (but inside I think its me, maybe I don't excited him). Ive dealt with issues with him not getting enough sleep. I've asked him to eat better with me. I've encouraged excercise. I've made him multiple appointments. One doctor said it was peyronie's disease because there is some twisting. Then there was blood in his ejaucation for years. We had that checked and they said "its gross" we arent going to do anything about blood in the semen, nothing can be done. What???? I don't care that it's "gross" I worry about his health!!!! I've tried sending him some sexy photo's, being spontaneous. I'm at a loss. I've been kind understanding and patient forever. I know this is not his fault. I know this. But, I can't have no sexual satisfaction for the rest of my life. we are only in our mid thirties. (we tried Viagra once, epic fail). Everything else in the relationship is there. We are happy, until in comes to sex. I don't even want to try anymore, I've lost complete interest. But I dont show him that. Any ideas? I was thinking some kind of intamacy retreat or something. I don't know. .