Having a hard time without my mom

[Beachwalker33]

I'm depressed about my mom's passing in august,she had ovarian cancer.I'm lost without her,I can't get anything done housework,laundry,etc.And thats not like me,I'm not myself without her in my life.I can't seem to get in the christmas spirit,for my 5-year-old.Her birthday is coming up,we used to get the tree then.My fiance gives me no support.I still can't except that she's gone.I can barely sleep or eat.I cry quite often.She was my best friend.I try to think happy thoughts,feel her presence,and move on.I'm just having a hard time adjusting to life without her.I have this theory that sunsets are signs from our loved one's that have passed on that there is still beauty in this world and we need to enjoy life and realize that in there one way they will show us that they'll always be with us.On my birthday as my aunt and I were leaving the beach I saw a poof,it was a whale.We went out to the pier,their was about 4 or 5 whales out there.It was a little early for whale season,that was my mom's birthday present to me.Does anybody have any ideas to help me learn to cope without my hero, my best friend,my mommy?I write letters to her in a journal,I talk to her sometimes,this is just so hard...

[grammy64]

I lost my "mom" yesterday at noon....and am lost.  

[suzi-q]

I loved the book, "One Last Time" by John Edward.  It was very comforting to me.....also, I highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend going to a bereavement group.  Look in the yellow pages.  Most towns or neighboring towns offer free groups...I joined the one that was for adult children who have lost a parent....When I tell you it made SUCH a difference in my life.  The support is great...to be with a group of people who feel the same way as you at the same time as you.  It is a truly amazing experience.  PLEASE look into this...

[john4321]

I suggest reading near death experiences www.near-death.com

they are very profound ones and I think will help in this difficult time ... one day my mom will pass on too , I am very close to her so reading these nde's will prepare me for good as I understand what exactly happens when we die (we become more alive) and how our loved ones are not gone to some far away place but are here and now , watching us , hearing us talk to them . We must celebrate their existence and their blissful life in the spirit world , they are so happy there , in God's love and they desire to see us find peace with ourselves...

[Judy246]

I wish I can say it get better.  It's been 1 1/2 yr. since my mom died and there are no words to describe lossing your mom.  It' awful.  I feel like an orphan an that upsets me.  When I see people with their mother's  I feel a little envious, because I had one too.  just can believe that she is gone. I wish someone would wake me up from this nightmare that doesn't seen to go away.

What I miss the most is going to her when I had a problem. She would always listen to me no matter how small the issue was and give me motherly advise. I miss that so much.  Her birthday was on Thanksgiving and we were gratefulfull for what we do have now, but Christmas is difficult.  I have my 83 yr. old father  who is destroyed at his loss and we can't wait until Christmas is over with....sad isn't it, since it use to be such a great family holiday for us.  Life is just not the same. I'm not the same and I miss my "mommy" sooo much that I wish I was with her.  

When I go visit her at the cemetary,I'm bothered that I have to go see her at a place where she does not belong. She belongs home with me and my father and I hate the night.  I hate that is there along in the cold night (I' know I'm being hard on myself).  I just can't believe that my mother who was  full of life is in the ground.  I just can't believe it and to see my last name on a headstone is surreal.  I've prayed and asked her to give me a sign that she is ok (desperate of me).  I just really want to know that she is ok.

If anyone finds the secret of coping, I wish they would also share it with me, because everthing is heavy and difficult without my mom.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm righ there with you in the very same situation. life will never be the same. God help us.

Judy