Dad commited suiside 2 weeks ago

[Whitneypoo6091]

Hi,
I have never done this before or ever imagined i would have to write something like this. Hi everyone my name is Whitney. My dad recently committed suicide 2 weeks ago on April 24 2009. He shot himself in the head. Honestly i feel so lost. I just talked to him and everything. He seemed fine. We planned our fishing trip everything for the summer. Im his little princess. He was the happiest guy i had ever know always singing telling silly jokes.  I recently found out he owed the IRS money. Which i don't think is such a big deal. I don't think he would do anything like this because of that. Please if someone else has gone through this please tell me where i should start. I don't know what to do. I dont sleep or anything anymore.

[29sillygirl]

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[jenna707]

my story is the same as yours. my dad shot himself yesterday afternoon. we were planning fishing trips for the summer too. i have a text message from 2 days ago about him saying it's a good day and he cant wait for the summer. yesterday morning he was telling my brother how he couldnt wait to start his new life with the help he needed. he was scheduled to go to a rehab facility (for alcoholics) to help him rid his mind of all the demons he had. unfortunately he chose to leave us 2 days before help came.

[nrgbunni]

First of all allan_Hale dont you ever think that it was your fault sweetheart. It wouldnt have mattered if you had stayed @ your dad's or not. It would have been lots of different things weighing him down untill he coudnt see out anymore. I know its hard but we have to think that they are in a better place now and they arent in any pain anymore.

My uncle was a truck driver, a real strong aussie bloke. Maybe he felt he needed to keep up that appearance and bottle up his feelings, i dont no. Depression is a hard enough topic to talk about as it is let alone if ur a strong minded manly man regardless of the proffesion.

Im just so glad that i have someone to talk to in similar situations as me now. I just hope that my story/words will be as comforting to you as yours are to me.

[heavenlydeer]

i feel your pain, confusion and hurt.  i have not had anyone in my immediate family commit suicide but a friend of mine did.  she was very sad, tormented i would say and she shot herself in the head to be rid of her torment.  she left behind father, step mother step brother and a step sister as well as two sibblings of hers.  at first they all felt it was there faults but after years of counseling they realize it was not their fault at all and they could not stop it.  life will get better.  ps.  you could not be in better hands than Jesus Christ's cause his words surpass the mind, it reaches the heart and gives you divine peace so reach there first.  bless you all.  

[Chellsee27]

Wow! My dad was an x cop too as well as vietnam vet...german and very strong minded...was the last thing I would think he would do,but at the same time, its also the exact thing he would do..he always lived life on his own terms. It kills me everyday to know about all the hurt he obv felt. Happend sep 3 2006...feels like yesterday.

[plzhlpme1]

i went through the same thing 6/2000...almost 10 years feels like yesterday...my dad shot himself in the head he was an x cop and had a lot of demons i had no clue about....if u need to talk please write me i am here and i went through the same exact thing as u....i was his little princess..his only girl with 3 brothers....i miss him soooo much and need to talk to someone about it.....it helps when there are people who went through the same exact thing to talk together.......please write......

[Allan_hale21]

hi how do u make a pge like this 1?i hope it will help my sisters more than it will help me they r 11 and 3 my sis is in less pain then me but sh say t all hapen plz help us

[Allan_hale21]

hi whitney im allan and im 13 im srry about your dad u are cind of like me my dad comited sucide on may the 12 2009 and i still think it was my fault couse i moved out couse i could not hndle my step mom i was ral close 2 him and he was my role model and i still think about following him my mom and dad were divorced so i went 2 live wit him and my grandparents i miss him sobad and my last turn is 2 people who r gong through though the same thing plz send a email 2 me at allan_hale21***@**** plz help i dont no wat 2 do

[hopefull10]

So sorry to hear of your bad news. I am sure your father loved you and that he wasn't thinking straight at the time. The best advice I can give you is read a little of the bible each day, this helps me in my grief. Prayer is something wonderful, pour out your heart to God and He will guide you.
    Take good care of yourself and please let us know how you are coping. xxxxxxxxx

[star641]

hi whitneypoo6091,....first i would like to say im so sorry to hear about your dad ,
i am the mom of two children who also died from suicide ,..can i just say its one of the hardest deaths to have to deal with ,.....because at first it doesn't make any sense ,.
you said he was the happiest guy ever and that might be so it showed you he was trying to fight it when he was around you , you must try and understand he was suffering deep down inside ,....and what ever you think dont ever blame yourself or anyone else
for this no one is ever to blame ,....your dad was suffering so much he just wanted to stop the pain he was in ,..my dear its been over 6 years since my son and daughter died
and i have learned so much about suicide ,....this will take you a very long time to even
learn how to deal with it ,...two weeks is very early you haven't even started to grieve yet
you are still in shock believe it or not ,......you are and we always be his little princess
it will be further down the road you will need some help and i do recommend a therapist
for you to talk to ,...you dont need to start anywhere hun just take one day at a time ,
im hear for you if you ever have any questions to ask me and if i can help in anyway i will
god bless you and i know that your dad is now out of his pain and watching over you each and every day ,......

[Whitneypoo6091]

Hi Caroline,
Thank you so much. Yes we did have a very good relationship. I think i Will Try the counseling at a church or something like that.It's just so hard to talk about him to other people. But thank you so much for taking the time to write me

[Caroline565]

Hi Whitney,

I am really sorry for the loss of your Dad. Suicide is so hard for us to understand. It might be a good idea for you to consider counseling or group support. You may need some extra help getting through this. It sounds like you had a good relationship with your Dad, that is good. I hope that in time, these memories will replace some of the pain you are feeling now. Some of the support groups (as I mentioned above) are free and are held at local hospitals and churches. Check with them. Sometimes they even have info in your local newspaper. I wish you all the best, keep in touch!