What ever u said to her, I know she heard u and took the love u felt for her when she went.....I believe the body dies but the soul doesn't, so I know she knew u loved her. Live your life to make her proud and maybe take a piece of her advice or beliefs and pass them down to future generations so her spirit will always remain. God bless you............
I am so sorry. We just lost my mother in law 3/21....
One comment you made in your original post touched my heart.
You said you could not and would not have done things differently for any other outcome.
That was our thoughts as mil passed also. That really brought us peace to know we did everything as she had wished, she had Alzheimer's and fortunately had written advance directives in 1988! Looking back we felt like we made good decisions for her and she was pain free at the end.
I am so sorry to hear about your mother in law. I know you say your fine but the after effects of a death doesn't always happen quickly. If you feel really down at any point in time, please take time to heal.
All the best.
Anna
I know she heard all the wonderful things you said to her. We, as nurses, are taught the hearing is the last thing to go. I have many amazing stories of people and I believe they heard every word I said to them. I am glad she is now in a place where there is no more suffering. Continue all those awsome family traditions! She is loved and will forever be in your hearts! I am so sorry for your loss.
Update: my mother in law passed away last night at 5:07 am. Her daughter was there with her and hold her. Her bday is 5/07! And she passed at 5:07! My mother in law loved numbers, especially number 7. She always liked to find te number 7 in things in life. Brthdays, addresses, etc! I'm doing ok. Peaceful. No more suffering. Thanks to all
firstly, I would like to thank anyone who read this. Secondly, I would like to thank those who commented. I have never, so openly, told such a personal experience before. I am full of faith and peace right now. And to those that shared a piece of their story to me, I thank you and pray for you as well.
So- we just returned from visiting my mom in law. She is still hanging on, although it's not her that's hanging on now. She is. Wing fully sustained by machines and medicene. I just want everyone to know that if they ever, god forbid, have to see a loved one in a life support situation, talk to them. I know in my heart of hearts that she could hear me. Even if the doctors said, "medically speaking" she has no brain function... I just know she could hear my words. Whenever I sai anything that would need any kind of response, she raised her eyebrows and wiggled her feet. Especially when I spoke of my girls, her grand kids, she responded. So at this point we are literally waiting for a call. Her daughter, my sis in law is by her side. The drs said despite all the life saving techniques they are doing, her blood pressure is slowly dropping. Like I said, I am peaceful and my experience was pleasant, no matter how sad it was... Thanks again for reading and please continue with the comments as I love this support and Interaction. God bless.
I have watched 5 family members suffer tremendously only to die, and one was my son and grandson.....my heart goes out to all of you. Like you, I was extremely close to my mother-in-law as were my children and we all miss her dearly. You're both so very fortunate to have shared many good times while building wonderful memories.....and these memories will get you and your children through this time. I will keep her in my prayers and big hugs to you.
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. She sounds like a wonderful lady and is very loved. My thoughts and prayers are with all you. Wishing you the best!