Loss of a family friend

[kelle619]

Hey everyone. A few days ago my family and I lost a great friend. He was also my next door neighbor. He was 78 and died overnight suddenly, found by his wife. I saw him just the day before and he looked great. We are all devastated beyond belief. I cannot stop crying. My son who is eight can't stop crying. He loved him. Him and his wife are truly the nicest people you will ever meet on this earth
I just can't process any of it. I see his car sitting in the driveway. He loved d driving, and visiting friends , and when he would get out of the car we would talk about everything. He was the kindest, most lovable gentle man. It's not fair...why him. I just can't deal, I'm so mad...

[clement4now]

Prayers go out to Jim, and your family kelle619
God Bless All :)

[kelle619]

Hi.
Thank you so much for replying. It means so very much. I love the plant idea that you have. I really wanna do that, and I know the perfect place to plant it. I will also like to add some flowers and stepping stones. I would also add to it a memory plant for my Aunt and brother who also suddenly passed years back .
I called my neighbor tonight, but she was out, I left a Message telling here I'm here if she needs me, and I'm thinking of her and if she needs anything don't hesitate to call. It just seems so unreal. I miss him very much. I would give anything to have him back, for everybody. I'm telling you, he was the most gentle sweetest man you would ever meet. The last I saw him was a week ago today. I just can't believe it. I can't talk to my neighbor without crying, I feel so bad. I don't mean to do it on purpose. Ugh....it *****....but again thank you very much and if you could, just say a little prayer for him. His name is Jim.
Thank you...
Kelle

[clement4now]

Hi,

I'm sorry that you and your son are going through a difficult time with the passing of your friend and neighbor. It takes time to heal from a loss, and it is a natural process that all of us must go through. Feeling anger, sadness, confusion (etc.), is all a part of moving through grief..

I have a suggestion for you, that might help you and your son do something positive and help shift the focus off of your friend's passing. Go to a garden center, and find either a plant or tree that you can plant in your friend's honor ~ something that memorializes him.   If you don't have a yard, a potted plant will do just fine. Have your son help pick out the plant and help with the all the steps in the planting/potting process. Keep it lighthearted and fun.  Once you're done, find a special place for the plant, and have your son help nurture it. This is a good way for you and your son to remember your friend by, plus it is an upbeat activity for both of you to engage in...

Something to keep in mind, is that your neighbor's wife or family members might really appreciate someone dropping by to see if they need help with anything during this time ~ even if it's something small like a quick trip to the store, light cleaning, or help with making a meal.  It's always nice to know that you have neighbors and friends who are there to support you during hard times...

Take Care :)