Hey Jeanette. I'm truly sorry for your loss.
However, it would be unfair to your beloved departed daughter, not to acknowledge
that her passing was not in vain.
You have a mission and an opportunity jeanette to turn this tragic loss into something positive.
Start a support group and become an advocate for bariatric surgery patients, to help lower the risk of complications and death. The risks might be much higher in the US than here in Canada.
The applicant rejection rate is higher in canada, possibly because the system here is public
Your daughter would be very happy if you took on such an endeavor.
Well at any rate, doing anything more purposeful than what you're doing now, will bring you at a
better place in your life.
And of course your daughter is already at a better place, were there's no pain, no suffering.
Just ask yourself, what would she like to see you like. This should be your guiding light!
I lost my father last year, so please accept my deepest sympathies with your loss. I know what you're going through. I am sad for you not having the support you need. A few ideas for grief counseling on a budget: do you have access to books at the library? Many have written books on the subject and they might help you? Check to see if there are any free grief groups in your area like at a church? I hope you have a network of friends somewhere. Please know that there is no set process for grieving. We each go through it in our own way. I wish you best wishes and I hope you can continue living your life well in your daughter's name. God bless.
My 40 year old daughter dropped dead on December 27, 2016. We too were VERY close and did just about everything together. I understand what you are going through. I have a friend who lost their daughter in a head on 17 years ago and she told me that you never get over losing one of your children, they aren't suppose to die before you. My daughter was awaiting a second heart transplant when her first transplant stopped working; I was out of state when this happened so we got a phone call. I can tell you one thought that Heavenly Father put into my mind. He told me that I was only an instrument in bringing her here and that her life was about HER soul's journey back to Him. Those words have helped me greatly. I still miss her every day, the holidays will never, ever, be the same for me again. I still have meltdowns thinking about her and about all of the things we shared together. A few weeks after my daughter died, she appeared to her father and she told him; "Mom's having a really hard time with this. It shouldn't be this difficult." I knew exactly what she meant by those words and had the words: "It shouldn't be this difficult" engraved on the back of a medallion where her fingerprint is stamped, it's on a necklace I wear every day. You will see your daughter again someday, hold on to that thought. Hugs.