RIP My Father

[newportttttttt]

My Dad was just pronounced dead today...4-25-1960 to 5-23-2009...He suffered from a brain injury that ultimately took him to a better place...I will definantly miss him and love him which will be hard for me knowing hes not around anymore...I have to move on and take over to help my mom and two younger brothers...With my anxiety this is going to be difficult but I have plenty of support from family and friends...Wish me the best of luck

[turkee23]

im soo sorry for your loss , im still trying to deal with my grandma passing. you seem to be a strong person and YES your will get through it and your mother and siblings need you SO much right now....it brought a tear to my eye because your dad and my grandma have the same bday...... they are together in heaven now NOT suffering anymore..... they are at the rainbow bridge with all the animals and other people who have gone to a better place .....

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

it will slowly slowly get easier but i still find it very very hard to deal with not seeing her anymore..... im so sorry ....

[JustineRita]

I am so sorry for your tragic loss. As words of comfort, and someone who went thru it in November, if you are taking care of many things around your parents' home after your father's passing, here's a few tips. Put some of his clothes - his favorite shirts/ties/hats aside - this is so painful, but not as painful as if you wait - and donate the rest to the veterans local shelter. Trust me...it gets EXTRA painful the farther you are away from his passing.

Take care of all immediate insurance claims and credit card cancellations.

EAT. Please. You will be lightheaded and hurting from crying. You'll feel extra worse if you do not have sustenance.

Don't drink. I did it New Years Eve (6 weeks after he passed) and believe me, you will feel horrible. I downed an entire double bottle of wine and I felt awful the next day.

If a non-immediate family member or best friend bails on you - there is NO excuse for their absense, especially if they "can't deal with loss" - its YOUR grief - I went thru this BIG time w/ my best friend - and its NOT about them. Talk this out w/ that person - don't sit on it and don't let them get away with it. You'll need their unfailing support ALL year and beyond if they really are a true friend (she ended up being a great friend and aid thru all this)

If things get really down - please see a therapist. I ended up dealing w/ a double loss - my boyfriend of 4 years (and who I thought I was going to marry) was there for the funeral then lost it about 4 months later, and I had what is called complicated grief. ITs too much for the most sane folks to handle and I might have been dead if it weren't for a counselor to help me sort it out.

I'll pray for you and I'm thinking of you....

[Caroline565]

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I know it is difficult right now for you and your family but take it one day at a time and focus on things that are the most important. It is going to be even more difficult for your Mother. At the same time, it is important that you allow yourself to grieve so that you can "move on". Wishing you all the best. Good luck.

[margypops]

I do wish you all the best and luck , it is so hard but good your mom has you, to help her, as time goes by the hurt gradually turns to acceptance ,it is good you can come here and talk thats part of it being able to grieve .Great that there are friends around so you will be busy, thats the important thing right now being positive and knowing thas what your Father would want.Good Luck .

[Judy246]

My very deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved father. He was such a young man and God saw him getting weaker and did what he thought was best.  You just don't move on...you will assist with you family in making the funeral arrangements, but remember that you will need support and we are here. We have experience what you are experiencing and the aftermath. It will be necessary to go thru the stages of the grief process, which will be very difficult for you and your family. You will have good days and you will have terrible days, but God will give you the strenght to survive. Tell your mom about this website. She will need it and your brothers too. Just remember that your father needs you strong now. You are an extension of him and he would not want to see his wife or sons suffering. May God hold him in his tender care and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  It will be ok....one day at a time...Judy