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i feel bad for moving on...
My 3 1/2 year old beautiful baby girl went to heaven March 1st 2011...even though its only been 3 months im starting to feel a lil comfort of her being gone. Lacy was born in pain and died in pain. Im happy she's in heaven and happy now. but now im dealing with the fact me and her father split up cause we werent coping the same way and now i have a new boyfriend and im happy now. Is it wrong to feel this way so soon??
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Everyone grieves in different ways and on different schedules ,,, for example, sometimes the strongest grief is also the fastest; conversely, buried grief can come out later (even years later). If you were grieving all of Lacy's life about the pain she was in and how sad it was that things happened the way they did, it is quite possible that you already have gone through some of the grief stages. Don't let anyone else tell you when you should grieve, it is for your heart to know how you feel and felt. It is not wrong to feel happy again. Trust the truth of your emotions.
hi i to lost my little girl when she was almost four years old,and me an her dad seperated shortly afterwards also.but its been 15 years since my little girl died and it still feels like yesterday. you deserve so much happiness just like everybody else.i learnt the hard way.because i didnt feel i deserved to be happy. its took me a long time to realise that no matter what i cant change whats happened..and only now im starting to move on... dont waste your life,and be happy because you to cant change the past just look to the future.good luck and god bless xxxxx
I am truly happy for you that you know your daughter is in a better place and is no longer suffering. It sounds like she struggled all her life, and how can you not be happy for her that the suffering has stopped and she is finally at peace. Moving on does not mean forgetting, so if you have found some one who makes you happy then you deserve to start moving on and be happy again.
Thanks you guys...you guys made me feel 100% better... greatly apprecated :)
I endured watching my son and grandson suffer horrendously before passing on. It was a great relief to know they no longer suffered. The loss of a child often comes between the parents, for whatever reason. Your little girl will live on in you. You have no reason to feel guilty about anything, and if you are ready to move on to happier times....you need to do this. You've endured so much because there is no greater loss than that of a child. Now it's time to enjoy the happiness you have in your life. This doesn't mean you love your daughter less, or will ever forget her. Life goes on and fortunately you've found happiness with another to do this......go for it! I wish you all the best.
No it is not wrong to feel this way,what you have been through is the worst thing that any mother could possibly go through,and you will never forget your daughter,you have lost everything you ever loved and have now been given a second chance of happiness,and i say grab it with both hands and enjoy,you deserve it.
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