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No Joy
In the last 8 years I have lost several close family members, 2 grandmas, an aunt and uncle, my dad, stepdad (who rasied me my whole life) and my 17 year old first cousin wo was killed in a car wreck. Dad was the last to die, I had lived with him for a year and 2 months prior to his death. It was VERY unexpected. A few days after his death I freaked out and was just scared to death for a whole day and part of the next day. After that I couldnt sleep at his house anymore. I took to sleeping in my car for a few weeks till my friends family took me in till I found a place. I stayed with them for a few weeks and found an apartment. I now live alone and about a week ago my mood has changed alot. It now seems like I am only happy when I am around people. My mood seems to change 20 times a day. I don't like being in the apartment alone and seem to only want to be there when I sleep, as soon as I get up I leave and dont come back till bed time. I seem fine with I am with my friends and their families. It has almost been 3 months since dad died. Is this normal and will it go away??
It does and it will be that way for awhile. It took me a good two years for the constant ups and downs to stop. That doesn't mean I still don't have them, they just don't have them all the time. The thing you really have to do is not force yourself to get over it too fast, grief is apart of the process, and to move forward you need to go through it.
It seems like it goes and comes 20 times a day. I will feel fine and happy then all of a sudden I am at the bottom of the world
Yes it is normal. Like you, I have lost several family members, the last one was my uncle that I was very close to. However the day I lost my dad, was the day death brought me to my knees and it took a long time for me to get up and walk again. I was the opposite of you though, I did not want to be around people. The fact of the matter is that we all grieve in different ways, and if being around others brings you comfort, then there is nothing a wrong with it.
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