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Oral sex with escort
I have done the stupidest thing of my life on Monday. I went and saw an escort. She performed unprotected oral sex on me. I thought that she was being very firm and I could feel her teeth. After this I panicked and left. I have subsequently been having assorted symptons, my penis feels weird, like there is some kind of build up in it. I have been getting headaches and my skin is itchy/ sensitive. When I lean my arm on something or leg on something I get reddining of the skin, far quicker than would normally occour. I have also had what appears to be reddinig and rawness of the skin on either side of my penis, by the join to my legs, it could be chaffing I suppose. When I saw the girl I had a small cut, which had healed up on one of knuckles, although I'm certain this didn't go near her. I also had a shower at hers prior to the encounter, could this of opened pores and made me more vunerable. I am so frightened I have Berenice worrying constantly about it
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I want to move along. But I'm having panic attacks on a daily basis about what has happened. I have some weird symptons and every time I calm myself down I notice something which causes me to flare up and get paniced again.
Try reading the replies. The only correct reply was from by mike_no , Jun 12, 2010 04:41PM
You can't get HIV from what you describe above. Oral sex is no risk. You have nothing to worry about, please move on.
You can't get HIV from what you describe above. Oral sex is no risk. You have nothing to worry about, please move on.
Incorrect info? Whose given me incorrect info
Because testing is not needed and all it does is cause more anxiety waiting on the testing period for a test that is not needed. MOVE ALONG.
Can i know what's the incorrect information that disturbed gave to Will? I ask this becouse he say that he has no risk but if he want to test he can have a test after 6 weeks and 3 month...And those are the same information that the doctors give to me...please explain me
If it was any of your concern you would be included in the warning of giving incorrect information.
Why did u say this to disturbed777?
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I am going to test for it. I am just really worried as to what these red marks on my groin/testicals are. They could be chaffing, I mean before last Monday I noticed that when I was sat down in a chair I was sweating a lot, from that area. But I can't understand why the marks have appeared and the itching started since the incident
you don`t need to test but if you test at 6 weeks it will you give you a good indication of where you at with your status , a follow up at 3 months will be conclusive
Thank you for your replies. I am still very frightened. I can't seem to accept that I am not likely to have it. My skin still seems weird, reddining from contact with stuff far quicker than normal, and feeling tingly and sensitive. I also have itch testicals, and some times get pains in that area, as if someones squeezing there. I am becoming increasingly distressed and angry with myself. I can't forgive myself for what I've done, I don't think I can cope with waiting three months for the test. Is there a quicker way of finding out, I live in the UK I don't know what's avaliable here
Dr. Jose,
I am a heterosexual 19 yr. old male from US and have been reading up on some of your responses regarding insertive oral sex (BJ's). I have seen you state (regarding BJ's without any major twists or extenuating circumstance to their stories) the following....
" First of all, I would like to say that from your description of the events, you have not put yourself at any risk of HIV infection whatsoever"
and also state....
"First of all I would like to say that your encounter, as described, is a very low risk one in regards to HIV. (the person who gives a blow job and receives sperm after ejaculation would be at a slightly higher risk)"
Remember, these are responses to question about simple BJ’s without any rough stuff going on and the answers seem to contradict each other…I mean this respectfully, as I am just confused.
So here's my question as you already know what's coming next. What's the real story regarding BJ's? Is it a low risk or no risk incident for the male? Please be as "detailed" as possible with your response as I think many others may be confused also....respectfully I ask you to please prove your point to me....convince me please on your position here. Can you also explain where the soft tissue membranes are in the penis..are they at the tip of the opening on the penis gland(s) or deeper in the shaft? I'm just trying to better understanding where the point of infection is with a male during normal sex acts. If you couldprovide a link with a picture or diagram of where this ocurrs that would be great.
Sincerely,
Confused
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Hi there,
I am sorry if some of my replies have caused some confusion. In Medicine, like in many other fields, there are no 0% or 100%'s. I might have said in some posts 'no risk whatsoever' when I probably meant 'such a negligible risk, close to zero, essentially no risk'. Statistics are just statistics and when estimated risks for receptive oral sex (giving a bj) is 0% to 0.004%, but also after many years of experience in this field, I have never (this is a rotund NEVER=0%) seen or dealt or heard of a case of someone becoming infected this way. The estimated risk of receiving a bj is certainly 0%. I apologise if I have sometimes possibly given the impression of contradicting myself. It might be related to the workload that I had on that day, probably trying to answer a post late at night...However I hope that this clarifies this point. You can play the lottery every day, but the chances of winning the first price during your lifetime are not impossible, but they are pretty close to zero.
When you are talking of blow jobs, I assume you refer to heterosexual males. There are plenty of males out there who also enjoy performing them.
If you are usually a receiver of bj, as mentioned before you would not be at any risk at all of HIV infection. The main reason for this is because not only the saliva does not carry the virus, but it also destroys it. Even if the bj performer was positive with bleeding gums and mouth sores, the saliva would get rid of the virus. On top of that, the lining of the glans (head of penis) and opening of the urethra would have to be lacerated in order to gain access into the blood stream. By the way those are the areas where viral transmission happens. Circumcised men have a general lower risk of infection because this lining is tougher and less fragile, less likely to be damaged by intercourse; therefore transmission is less likely to occur.
The photo attached shows the glans, which has the urethral orifice at the top. HIV transmission can happen anywhere in this region.
I hope this helps and clears your doubts.
Best wishes,
Jose
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I only recieve oral sex....never have given it. I have been reading your posts for some time now and have always followed your advice. Protect myself regarding vaginal sex, don't give oral sex just foreplay, and have always thought that a BJ was absolutely safe. I have even considered some of your replies to married men, advising them that it was okay to resume intercourse with their wife after recieving a BJ from a CSW...without even needing a HIV test. Can't they infect their wives if their that one in a million? Maybe I'm just not totally understaning your reply....shouldn't these men have been advised to test as they received an unprotected BJ outside of ther marriage? Do I need to test as well??? Respectfully, and I truely mean respectfully, I ask that you keep your answer detaled but in simple terms so that I am crystal clear....I'm a little,,,,no a lot worried now.
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Perhaps I have not been very clear. I reiterate: no risk from receiving a blow job; practically zero risk from giving one. If the sexual encounter has been oral sex only (giving or receiving), we would not recommend patients having an HIV test.
I hope this is a bit clearer.
Best wishes,
Jose
I am a heterosexual 19 yr. old male from US and have been reading up on some of your responses regarding insertive oral sex (BJ's). I have seen you state (regarding BJ's without any major twists or extenuating circumstance to their stories) the following....
" First of all, I would like to say that from your description of the events, you have not put yourself at any risk of HIV infection whatsoever"
and also state....
"First of all I would like to say that your encounter, as described, is a very low risk one in regards to HIV. (the person who gives a blow job and receives sperm after ejaculation would be at a slightly higher risk)"
Remember, these are responses to question about simple BJ’s without any rough stuff going on and the answers seem to contradict each other…I mean this respectfully, as I am just confused.
So here's my question as you already know what's coming next. What's the real story regarding BJ's? Is it a low risk or no risk incident for the male? Please be as "detailed" as possible with your response as I think many others may be confused also....respectfully I ask you to please prove your point to me....convince me please on your position here. Can you also explain where the soft tissue membranes are in the penis..are they at the tip of the opening on the penis gland(s) or deeper in the shaft? I'm just trying to better understanding where the point of infection is with a male during normal sex acts. If you couldprovide a link with a picture or diagram of where this ocurrs that would be great.
Sincerely,
Confused
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Hi there,
I am sorry if some of my replies have caused some confusion. In Medicine, like in many other fields, there are no 0% or 100%'s. I might have said in some posts 'no risk whatsoever' when I probably meant 'such a negligible risk, close to zero, essentially no risk'. Statistics are just statistics and when estimated risks for receptive oral sex (giving a bj) is 0% to 0.004%, but also after many years of experience in this field, I have never (this is a rotund NEVER=0%) seen or dealt or heard of a case of someone becoming infected this way. The estimated risk of receiving a bj is certainly 0%. I apologise if I have sometimes possibly given the impression of contradicting myself. It might be related to the workload that I had on that day, probably trying to answer a post late at night...However I hope that this clarifies this point. You can play the lottery every day, but the chances of winning the first price during your lifetime are not impossible, but they are pretty close to zero.
When you are talking of blow jobs, I assume you refer to heterosexual males. There are plenty of males out there who also enjoy performing them.
If you are usually a receiver of bj, as mentioned before you would not be at any risk at all of HIV infection. The main reason for this is because not only the saliva does not carry the virus, but it also destroys it. Even if the bj performer was positive with bleeding gums and mouth sores, the saliva would get rid of the virus. On top of that, the lining of the glans (head of penis) and opening of the urethra would have to be lacerated in order to gain access into the blood stream. By the way those are the areas where viral transmission happens. Circumcised men have a general lower risk of infection because this lining is tougher and less fragile, less likely to be damaged by intercourse; therefore transmission is less likely to occur.
The photo attached shows the glans, which has the urethral orifice at the top. HIV transmission can happen anywhere in this region.
I hope this helps and clears your doubts.
Best wishes,
Jose
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I only recieve oral sex....never have given it. I have been reading your posts for some time now and have always followed your advice. Protect myself regarding vaginal sex, don't give oral sex just foreplay, and have always thought that a BJ was absolutely safe. I have even considered some of your replies to married men, advising them that it was okay to resume intercourse with their wife after recieving a BJ from a CSW...without even needing a HIV test. Can't they infect their wives if their that one in a million? Maybe I'm just not totally understaning your reply....shouldn't these men have been advised to test as they received an unprotected BJ outside of ther marriage? Do I need to test as well??? Respectfully, and I truely mean respectfully, I ask that you keep your answer detaled but in simple terms so that I am crystal clear....I'm a little,,,,no a lot worried now.
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Perhaps I have not been very clear. I reiterate: no risk from receiving a blow job; practically zero risk from giving one. If the sexual encounter has been oral sex only (giving or receiving), we would not recommend patients having an HIV test.
I hope this is a bit clearer.
Best wishes,
Jose
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You can't get HIV from what you describe above. Oral sex is no risk. You have nothing to worry about, please move on.
unprotected oral sex has minimal risk as now suggest by professionals, so in your case it can be almost certain that would not be due to HIV. Calm yourself down and see if the problems persist, and go check with doctor if so..
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