Only the head needs to be covered. Therefore you don't have hiv. hiv prevention is straightforward, so there are no "more details" for you to keep providing.
For an example of what negative people like you should do about your rash or diarrhea, if a baby gets a rash or diarrhea his mother doesn't take him to a hospital and ask for an hiv test. She takes him to a doctor if she can't get rid of it with creams etc. so you should do the same + move on from hiv ideas instead of studying your body for no reason.
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Ouch to the sanitizer on your penis if she got any on the tip/hole; you lady friend sounds like she knows what she is doing .
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1. Sanitizer is unlikely to compromise efficiency of a condom against HIV. And yes, it the condom ripped you would know.
2. Yes.
3. No.
Great job on wearing condom as far as HIV.
Micro tears and holes are an old myth. If a condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and it hangs in tatters so that is obvious especially when you try to take it off. Only the head of the penis needs covering, so you are safe and should move on.
Sanitizer on the penis is a waste of time if you are worried about std, Maybe she did it as a Covid killer, although I have no idea how well that would work.