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I got PEP but not sure if this was really a risk?
Hi! I'm female and thanking in advance for your time.
I've been with a guy two nights ago. He fingered me and I told him to stop (his nails, also his ring hurt me). We did oral on each other. No ejaculation, and not even for that long. He did that longer though, and again hurt me a little with his teeth. Telling you this cause I'm wondering if his nails and teeth could have caused those so called micro injuries on my vagina.
I said no to sex. Especially since he tried it without condom. He started to masturbate and ejaculated right between my vagina and inner leg. At first I didn't even do anything. After a while I got up and went to the bathroom, the sperm was already dry and I tried with a wet towel to take it away a little.
So a little sperm might got into my vagina. This would be considered low risk, right? The reason why I was worried though, I like him, but he does have the reputation of a womanizer and travels a lot, pretty much on every continent. He's an athlete and very rich, so he has no problems to find women wanting to be with him. And if he tried with other women aswell to have sex without condom..
So this made me seek medical advise. I went to a hospital and the doctor there prescriped me PEP. It was evening an he's an emergency doctor, so he wanted me to be on the safe side.
I had yesterday evening and this morning 3 pills. The doctor told me to take them every morning. I had nausea and vomited today a little more than 2,5 after taking medication. Probably cause I took them on an empty stomach. Will make sure to eat (didn't knew it was important).
So to make this long short, what would you say about my risk? Would you even consider to continue PEP? Or are the (possible) side effects not worthy for my risk?
I've been with a guy two nights ago. He fingered me and I told him to stop (his nails, also his ring hurt me). We did oral on each other. No ejaculation, and not even for that long. He did that longer though, and again hurt me a little with his teeth. Telling you this cause I'm wondering if his nails and teeth could have caused those so called micro injuries on my vagina.
I said no to sex. Especially since he tried it without condom. He started to masturbate and ejaculated right between my vagina and inner leg. At first I didn't even do anything. After a while I got up and went to the bathroom, the sperm was already dry and I tried with a wet towel to take it away a little.
So a little sperm might got into my vagina. This would be considered low risk, right? The reason why I was worried though, I like him, but he does have the reputation of a womanizer and travels a lot, pretty much on every continent. He's an athlete and very rich, so he has no problems to find women wanting to be with him. And if he tried with other women aswell to have sex without condom..
So this made me seek medical advise. I went to a hospital and the doctor there prescriped me PEP. It was evening an he's an emergency doctor, so he wanted me to be on the safe side.
I had yesterday evening and this morning 3 pills. The doctor told me to take them every morning. I had nausea and vomited today a little more than 2,5 after taking medication. Probably cause I took them on an empty stomach. Will make sure to eat (didn't knew it was important).
So to make this long short, what would you say about my risk? Would you even consider to continue PEP? Or are the (possible) side effects not worthy for my risk?
It sounds like your doctor was ill equipped to take care of you at that moment and lacked education. Pep really was not needed and is a hard drug to take. You didn't have a risk for HIV from your activity. I would consider stopping the pep. Your activity doesn't even warrant a test let alone pep!
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Ok I know I was anxious, but knowing he ***** around a lot, even a little bit sperm who went to my vagina worried me (what if he was just infected so there would have been a big viral load. You don't think this is possible?
Let's make this simple. Which of the ONLY 3 risks do you think you had, because if you didn't have one of them then you are just making up your own science and the discussion will go on forever since it is unscientific.
No, I don't think that's possible. You just can't get HIV from what you did. EVEN if he had HIV, you wouldn't get hiv from what you did. It's actually much harder to get the virus than you think. It's fragile. It will become inactive with air and saliva. So, have sex with guys you aren't going to worry about after with their reputation and move on from this.
Ok thank you very much both of you! Also sorry to @AnxiousNoMore. The only risk I think I had was the sperm right on my vagina and that I'm sure a little flowed inside. But you to assured me not to worry since HIV geets killed fast on air: so thanks for that.
Forgot to mention, I met him trough people who do drugs. But really can't say if he does drugs too and if he ever would use needles.
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Yup, I know there was no risk from oral. Just wondering if the sperm which most likely got into my vagina could be a worry?
You had no risk and a test would be a waste of time. You didn't do any of the ONLY 3 risks below.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV.
Thank you for your answers. I just wonder why doctors would tell me I was at low risk with the sperm contact at my vagina. I'm still a bit anxious but I guess I'll stop PEP
Were you very anxious and pleading for PEP when you saw him? If so then it is possible that he gave it to get you out of his office.
Yes I was anxious. but knowing he ***** around a lot, even a little bit sperm who went to my vagina worried me (what if he was just infected so there would have been a big viral load. You don't think this is possible? The doctor I saw was very young (mid till late twenties) so I guess he wanted to calm me down and be on the safe side
Hi AnxiousNoMore so I tought I'll stop PEP, but before that decided to first get checked for other STDs. Well turned out I have Gonorrhea. Not sure if my encounter that night would have give me Gonorrhea, so I might had it since few months. Would you say under this circumstances that I should continue with PEP?
Reread the advice about "no detail".
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