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Couple exposures I think and rapid testing

1. So, had underwear on and humped naked girl while having an erection, last june. Deep kisses but no tongue. I was drunk and dumb. Also fingered her. No sex, so like since I had stuff on my fingers and she was wet and I humped randomly with underwear and im sure precum was on the underwear but no ejaculation, is this cause for concern? Also on 2 more occasions I humped her with jeans on and she had no underwear.(russian stripper friend who may or may not escort on the side).

Anyway, had swollen lymph node on one side confirmed by doctor 3 weeks  to a month later. I got rapid test 2 weeks after symptoms and then got another rapid 2 months and finally one  at 3 months.  All negative.

My friend knows about the story now and told me "rapid tests at planned parenthood isn't good because they are getting defunded bro, so they use bad ones so the swollen lymph node could be ars and to test somewhere else"
I don't know what to do since other tests are very expensive.
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188761 tn?1584567620
Unless you had unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse or shared needles intravenously with people who inject drugs, there is no risk of transmission.

HIV is not your concern, any symptom that can happen to you is unspecific to HIV in this case since you were never exposed. Testing isn't needed.
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370181 tn?1595629445
Since there was no penetration, there was no risk of contracting HIV. HIV can only be spread inside the body, so even if there was vaginal fluid or pre-***. that is not a risk. Also, HIV can not be transmitted by kissing or by "fingering." YOU HAD NO RISK AND DO NOT NEED TO TEST. My advice? Always carry a condom in case the encounter goes further than expected.
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thanks <3
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead. For your situation, it can't burrow into your skin like a worm either.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is  protected and there is zero risk
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is protected and there is zero risk.
3. sharing hollow needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about an unscientific hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
So don't waste any more time worrying about dry humping and kissing because there is no risk.
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that is incredible paragraph, thank you.
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