Buzzed night risk

[HugoStrange08]

Hello all! I'll get straight to it. About a year ago (April 4, 2015), I had sex with a CSW. A condom was used, but it was expired for about a year. Recollection of that night is not as great as I would hope, due to slight inebriation, but I do not remember the condom breaking and Mr. Happy being exposed. According to most of what I've read, broken condoms are blatantly obvious, and even if expired, they provide the same percentage of protection as a fresh one, if left unbroken, along with the myth of microscopic holes being unfounded. Ever since then, I've felt things I've never experienced, with symptoms "coming and going.". Going into that situation, however, I was under an extreme amount of built up stress and depression from prior instances, not sex related. Coming out of it, left me feeling nothing but guilt, especially on the drive back home. I'm assuming this is all paranoia, cause I know acute infection doesn't occur until at least 2 weeks later, and only 2 DAYS later I experienced intense headaches and muscle pain, particularly in the neck and back. Given my knowledge of HIV transmission, I never tested for anything, cause research dictates condom stability means you are golden. In my five times of protected intercouse throughout my lifetime, condom breakage has never occurred, and no blood or drug use was ever part of the equation. This previous incident, however (the last time I've had sex), is sketchy because of my spotty memory of the night and my (probably unfounded) skeptical impression of the expired condom, accompanied with the fact I believed I had a cut (healed, no blood) on my right hand, that I used to for stimulation, mid vaginal intercouse session. I've developed OCD since this occurrence and have gone through every single scenario in my head, even if completely impractical. The only reason I got scared recently was because I caught a minor bug this past New Year's Eve that caused me to vomit (once), while I also experienced some pretty bad neck and back pain since then, along with some throat problems, and weird, seemingly nerve related problems in my arms/wrists and sinus issues. At the time of writing this post, I feel pretty damn good. While not 100 percent, my neck is feeling much better, my throat is feeling normal (primarily globus sensation issues), my back is improving, and the nerve in my arms is subsiding. During this "tenure," I've never had a fever, rash, night sweats, oral thrush, or weight loss. After all of this, do you suggest testing? Or would that be a waste of time?

[HugoStrange08]

Thanks a lot, Daniel! Figured I was good. My brain has put me through the wringer on multiple occasions this past year. Awesome to have some reassurance!

[HugoStrange08]

Figured I'm good, but just wanted some more insight. Many thanks to you Daniel!

[Daniel2015]

Hey man,

Don't worry, you had no risk. Next time use "fresh" condoms cause outdated ones can break more easily (probably). Yours seems to be fine.

Even if it broke, 1) the csw would have to be HIV + which we don't know 2) your chances of catching it are pretty low from a one time event like you describe it here... but again you had no exposure :)

So cool down, your symptoms have nothing to do whatsoever with HIV, go see a doctor if needed but this is really not HIV related...

If you are sexually active, like a lot of people (normal ha) well have a routine check once a year just for peace of mind, but if you use condoms consistently as you seem to... you should always be fine ;)

All the best